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The Everyday Sexism Project exists to catalogue instances of sexism experienced by women on a day to day basis. They might be serious or minor, outrageously offensive or so niggling and normalised that you don’t even feel able to protest. Say as much or as little as you like, use your real name or a pseudonym – it’s up to you. By sharing your story you’re showing the world that sexism does exist, it is faced by women everyday and it is a valid problem to discuss.

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#56819 F 2013-12-13 12:08
I was in a bar with some friends and as I was walking to the toilets some guy smacked my ass. I confronted him and told him I had not asked him to touch me. his response was 'Your skirt told me to do it'....
#56818 Chris 2013-12-13 11:53
I had a date with a guy who only talked about himself. Possible, right. But when I started talking back went he mentioned politics and work I called me a "difficult women". Of course I wanted to home immediately. When we approached my front door, he still thought he could come inside 'to have a drink'. I slammed the door in front of his nose.
#56817 anon 2013-12-13 11:49
Irritating when I hear that my partner's male colleagues make a pass at her, despite them knowing that she is gay and civilly partnered. Of all the most unlikely women for them to try it on with, their belief that she would be in any way attracted to them is both stupid and insulting.
#56816 Cyclist 2013-12-13 11:39
Cycling through West London. Guy shouts at me "Lucky saddle".
#56815 Clare 2013-12-13 11:38
I was walking to the train station with my mother and in front of us a young guy was eating a take away and throwing the packaging on the floor or over the fence onto the railway lines. This happened several times and when he chucked the last of his dinner on the floor, instead of using the bin that was right in front of him, I got angry and shouted that there was a bin right there. Clearly surprised that anyone would challenge him on his behavior, he shouted back asking what my problem was - I repeated myself and he told me to shut up because I was 'just a woman'.

He wasn't the most intelligent guy and my sarcastic 'have a nice day' was lost on him, but the his implication that I hadn't any right to challenge or even talk to him, because I was a woman, and the contempt with which he said it shook me. He didn't even take on board what I had said, he just basically told me to get back in my box where I belonged and it was a shock to see so openly how some men are still affronted by a woman having an opinion or expressing it.
#56814 Anonymous 2013-12-13 11:34
I work in a shop. I frequently have to kneel on the floor to stack shelves. I've lost count of the number of times male customers have jokingly asked me to give them a blow-job.

One time, a customer rammed his trolley into be when I politely refused. Instead of helping me, my [male] manager told me I'd be sacked if I tried to press charges as it was a common occurrence for customers to make jokes and that I'd risk bringing the company into disrepute "over nothing". He suggested that I came up with several 'banter' replies I could just trot out when necessary.

To my shame, I listened to him. I'm still working for the same company (though not in the same store), and still dealing with every day sexism. And yes, still trotting out the banterous replies.
#56813 Jess 2013-12-13 11:30
I was grabbed from behind at a club and force kissed by a guy that I'd never even seen before let alone spoken to. When I pushed him off and turned to see who it was there was a whole group of guys cheering and laughing. I still couldn't even tell which one it was.
#56812 Emma 2013-12-13 11:21
I'd forgotten about this until just recently... Around 10 years ago as I was walking through my local high street just after Christmas, a group of lads (I think we were all roughly in our mid 20s) were walking towards me. One of them suddenly smacked my bottom quite hard as they passed and they all cheered. I turned to them with absolute venom and shouted "F**K YOU!" and they actually all looked slightly unsettled by my reaction. Called my then boyfriend in tears after and he suggested I was a bit dramatic for being so upset. As is the case with many experiences of sexism it was like two hits of sexism for the price of one - the experience itself and the way others react to it afterwards.
#56811 Emma 2013-12-13 11:20
At the work Christmas party, one of my colleagues said if we were single he would "totally have me" as I was "fit". This was while he had me backed into a corner with his hand on my waist. I felt intimidated and now try to avoid him as much as possible at work.
#56810 Eleanor 2013-12-13 11:17
I used to revise for my (A Level) exams in a public library. Once, walking down a flight of steps inside, a man heading the other way whispered 'nice legs' right in my ear as he walked past. It was so unexpected and shocking in such a quiet, respectable public place. Really made me feel uncomfortable about going back there to study.
#56809 Becca 2013-12-13 11:14
I think that this is a problem that a lot of girls get to experience today but, in my school last year when I was walking up the stairs a guy from my class came at me from behind and put his hands on my boobs, he didnt ask or anything, he just touched them and smacked my butt. I guess he was considering it being normal but it was really humiliating.
#56808 Beth 2013-12-13 11:12
4 friends and I were in a nightclub sat in a booth, when a very drunken boy-man came and sat next to us. The conversation got on to what we do for a living and we asked him to guess. His response - Hairdresser, Call-centre worker, Model and (the best one!) "You're special and mean't for great things, but right now I think you work in Asda or Sainburys". Our actual careers are - Counsellor, Entrepreneur, Financial Marketer & Neuropsychologist. We're all very highly educated & successful but yet this 18 year old boy didn't even conceive one of us had a job that required a university education. The worst bit is, he obviously didn't understand why we were laughing and slightly outraged. Re-education of men is so important and has to start at a young age.

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