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#60654 K 2014-03-08 22:19
When I was 15 a man approached me and my friend at the bus stop, asked me if I went to college, asked if I wanted to go swimming with him and told me what pool and what times he went, asked if I went out clubbing even though I had stated several times that I was 15. He ended up getting on my bus and sitting beside me even though there were plenty of empty seats. He refused to believe I was 15 even though I showed him my buspass stated I was a child. It was pretty intimidating but also one of many infuriating encounters with men who refuse to listen when you tell them to leave you alone.
#60653 Tina 2014-03-08 22:03
A boy in my class told me I was hot and had a nice pair of tits but I was too much of a frigid, nerdy bitch to be socially acceptable to date. Wasn't even seeking his opinion but now that I have it, I feel enlightened and ready to change myself so I can be his perfect object -_-
#60652 Ali 2014-03-08 22:00
When I went to the dentist for him to check my jaw because it kept getting locked, he implied it was because I was giving too many blow jobs and that it was a 'common habit for teenage girls' but I needed to stop. I was 15 and hadn't even had my first kiss yet. My mother, who was present, was disguested by his behaviour and I felt humiliated and degraded.

I now go to a different dentist and have not seen him since.
#60651 Joan 2014-03-08 21:56
My class is divided between boys who are sexist, boys who are not sexist but are too afraid of their male peers' opinions of them, girls who do not speak up against them, and myself- the only girl who speaks up against them. The boys slut shame characters we study as well as girls in our school, and in general make sexist comments about women. No matter what I say when I calmly point out sexism is a form of discrimination, I am always met with unoriginal yet still hurtful comments as 'I don't trust anything that bleeds for a week and doesn't die', 'shut up and get back in the kitchen', or the classic 'make me a sandwich'.
I'm sick to death of their ignorance.
#60650 Guide 2014-03-08 21:50
A while ago I did a day-long first aid course through girl guiding, which was run by an elderly man. The group (we were all female, the youngest about 15) was evidently uncomfortable with his racist and sexist comments and actions which began the moment we got there, but at the time nobody spoke up. Some examples:
- kiss it (the dummy, for practising CPR) like it's the man of your dreams
- imagine I'm taking you out, lucky me (to me, 16 years old at the time)
- I have to careful here (gesturing to and sort of shaping his hands round the breasts of the 17 year old on front of him who he was using to demonstrate how to tie a sling)
- you can keep one of these in your massive handbags
I hated it, and talking to the others afterwards, apparently so did they. But when I told one of the leaders I was going to complain to the company, First Response, online, she told me not to overreact and that it wasn't his fault, he was just an old man. Hmm - I didn't realise that excused sexism and blatant rudeness!
#60649 Karen 2014-03-08 21:12
Followed and then cornered by 3 drunken men at the train station, who told me they were going 'fuck my cunt till i bled'', I had to run through town with them chasing me me, I'm 17 years old.
#60648 Martina 2014-03-08 20:46
This story is not about me, but that of one of the many women in my life that I hold in high respect. She is smart, cultured, accomplished, a mother.....and has curly hair.

You might wonder why that might be something noteworthy to point out. Well it shouldn't be. Right?

Yes it did in this circumstance. It was such an "important" part of her professional appearance that it made a whole room of supposedly highly respected businessmen and colleagues in the field IGNORE her completely as she led a conference. Be it through looking continuously at their phones, not asking questions, or simply not even acknowledging her existence- which they had NOT been doing to the previous presenters, who were men of all ages.

But the worst of all was being approached by two colleagues (men) at the end of the conference, who inappropriately said:

"Next time you should really straighten your hair, you would look much better and more professional."

A light scolding to a silly little girl playing dress-up in a man's world. No. No. No.
It is not appropriate, and disrespectful towards the hard work that has been accomplished in that person's career.

As a fellow curly haired woman wanting to enter the professional world, and a role model to my two younger sisters, that account has made me ever more conscious and scared of what we as girls and women have to fight against.

No matter how much we achieve, no matter how well we do, will we ultimately be valued solely on our appearance?

Hopefully the new generation, both girls and boys, are being brought up to respect one another by treating each-other as equals. Accepting each-other's differences, and allowing us to be ourselves without feeling judged by society.
#60647 Eva 2014-03-08 20:06
"how much can I buy you for?" -a comment shouted at me by one in a group of men, stopping their car next to me as I was walking home.
#60646 Hannah 2014-03-08 18:37
I was told by a friend that my opinion on rugby was invalid because I'm a girl
#60645 that woman 2014-03-08 18:16
At a fairly up-market antiques fair with my husband today. There was a pair of really nice Art Deco vases, and we were having a laugh because we'd both spotted them at the same time, then we'd both notice the (4-figure) price at the same time! As a result, we got talking to the guy who was running the stall. All fine, we got to talking about kids - he has two daughters, we have daughters too, but they're all grown up now. Just general chat. Then he says, actually, he has three children really, as his wife is like a third child. Said in such a way as to assume that my husband would agree with him that wives are like children. I'M STANDING RIGHT THERE!!

I said, 'Well, if you don't want my money' and walked away. Apparently (according to my husband) he realised he'd offended me. Oh good.
#60644 P 2014-03-08 18:10
One afternoon when walking home from the gym, I was beeped and catcalled by a man in a passing car. Later that day I complained about it to my (now ex) boyfriend that it had made me feel self conscious and preyed on. His reaction: 'Are you sure it was meant for you?'

It's not a compliment. It's not about what you're wearing. It's harassment.
#60643 Sarah 2014-03-08 18:03
3 work male work colleagues of mine talking about strippers said to me that I should be a stripper because I have big boobs! ah I also have a brain, personality and a degree!
#60642 anon 2014-03-08 17:51
I'm offended by the aggressive misogyny currently exhibited on the BBC website - in "comments" on Clare's Law introduction. A bald denial of any gender imbalance in domestic violence is a common theme

I can see scope for calm discussion of several aspects of the introduction, but few such were evident. I've previously complained to BBC about their postings policy without getting a reply. They evidently "choose" which topics are open to comment, and then host a proliferation of hate-fuelled messages, as long as they don't transgress some evidently narrowly-defined rules. Topics chosen are often those where you might expect such prejudice to be displayed.

Do we have to put up with this? Especially on Women's Day! Or is it our fault for looking - are we supposed to exclude ourselves from public space where we might be offended? Is anyone so placed as to to be able to challenge BBC on this?

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