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#68859 Eleonora 2014-08-05 11:03
Until December 2013, I worked as a press officer in a big organisation based in London. One day, my manager - a lovely young woman in her early thirties - shared one of her successes with our comms director - a successful British man in his late thirties. My manager had successfully pitched a piece to a journalist, and the feature was now out on a national broadsheet, in quite a prominent position. Our comms director looked at the piece, and with a sarcastic smile looked at my manager and said: "oh this is very good. I wonder what you had to do to make this happen." which of course is quite an offensive comment....
#68858 Kirsten 2014-08-05 09:17
On a train to Glasgow this morning and walked past a group of teenage boys to find a seat. One shouted "what a beautiful arse you have!" and another followed up by asking "can I stick my cock in it?"
#68857 - 2014-08-05 08:42
When looking to hire someone recently, my colleague was openly checking all candidates facebook profiles to make sure they were pretty enough for the role and didn't have any children. Seems important to note the person in question is female. Ridiculous...
#68856 Kathie Auton 2014-08-05 08:29
A new radio advert for Longleat Safari Park has an actor as an older brother saying his little sister is 'SUCH a GIRL' for liking the baby giraffes.
#68855 Annie 2014-08-05 07:38
I was on the phone to two of my guy friends. We were just talking about nonsense, then he asked if we could play truth or dare, i said yes. The questions and dares were okay at first, but then they got worse. i said "dare" and he asked me to take off a peace of clothing and touch myself. i told him i did it, but i didn't do it. i didn't choose dare after that, but when i said "truth" he started to ask me questions like "whats your bra size?" and "whats your favourite sex position?", etc. the boys kept asking each other questions as well. they made sure i could hear the answers. it made me so unbelievably uncomfortable. they started talking about me and what they'd do the next time they saw me. i stayed on the phone because they were pretty much the only friends i had at the time and i didn't want to loose them. i ended up hanging up when i couldn't stand it anymore.

the next day at school, i was so scared that i refused to go into class and sit next to them (we had set seats). i was even afraid to wait outside the classroom for the teacher with them standing a few metres away from me. i told my teacher that i didn't want to sit near them and she told me not to be silly.

i ended up sitting next to them. i started to cry and one of the boys started to stroke my back, which made me feel really uncomfortable so i cried even more. the other boy stared leaning over to look at me, as he did, he slid his hand up and down my leg. i ended up crying the class away.
#68854 skeeved out 2014-08-05 04:51
Where I work we have a supervisor who makes all of the women at work uncomfortable (he's patronizing, he stares (molest-with-eyes), and just genuinely makes all the women extremely uncomfortable to work with.

So when women don't want to work with him, request not to, or call out when they learn they will be, it's sort of a russian roulette of who has to work with him.

The shame is it's not possible for him to not work with women, out of 13 cashiers only one is male.

It's just a shitty situation and when the office secretaries hear us talk about it they just say 'just do your work and try to ignore him'...

We shouldn't have to ignore him, we should be able to feel confident and comfortable in our work environment. Not skeezed out by a 60 year old.
#68853 Agnes 2014-08-05 03:10
I was at the swimming pool and there was a man standing up looking at young girls inappropriately with a boner and although people noticed , no one done anything about it.
#68852 Agnes 2014-08-05 03:05
I was at the swimming pool and there was a man standing up looking inappropriately at young girls lying down and he had a boner.
#68851 B 2014-08-05 02:27
When I was around ten or twelve my brother told me: "Girls have it easier than boys, they can just go get pregnant and be taken care of." I did not even know what feminism was but those words sparked something in me, something angry. Also my family has shown favoritism and tolerance towards him since he is the 'first born male'.
#68850 A 2014-08-05 02:17
While walking down the street with a couple of friends a group of 12 year old boys proceeded to leer us and continually call us "ugly bitches" as we walked past. We are all in our 20s and never have we felt so uncomfortable before in our lives.
#68849 KD 2014-08-05 01:03
Walking down the mall in a bran new shirt I loved and was so excited to wear all when sx very tall men start hooting and hollering at me to come talking to them... My reply was an apology :/
#68848 Zznyan 2014-08-05 00:41
I was doing physio exercises which require me to be on all fours. I do this on the bed to save sore knees. My husband thought it acceptable to come up behind me in a 'sexy' way. When I move away and ask him what the hell, he sees no problem. A normally non-moronic and sensitive guy...

I have been beeped at while out running and have had numerous cat calls too, which I find really horrible as running should be free and, let's face it, no one looks good or is seeking sexualisation when out running!

When I was about 13 or 14, I was eating a baguette and an older man in his 60s, I'd guess, came over and said 'I like the way you eat that, take a slow bite for me'. I've not been able to eat baguettes in public since. A trivial thing but that should never happen!

When I was 14 I was walking along the coastline wearing jeans and a vest in summer. A trucker beeped and slowed down offering me a lift in a leery way - I was friggin' 14! And little for my age. I doubt many young guys have the problem of older ladies intimidating them in this way. Maybe they do, but it seems so common for women and girls and I don't know a single man that this has ever happened to.

And, like so many stories In other posts, comments on my body in the street at all times of day and in all situations (I'm a regular looking person with jeans and tshirt dress sense so it's not like I'm anything remarkable). The worst recent one was when I was with my husband in ikea and he was a few paces behind so it looked like we were not together and two guys were uncomfortably close to me commenting on what they would do to my a**. My husband was furious at the guys but gobsmacked that I wasn't more upset. I explained that this was not overly unusual for a woman, or at least me and friends, and he was even more shocked.

I also have a PhD. When I graduated I recall more people complimenting me on my clothes and hair and looks on the day and on photos I put on Facebook than commenting on the hard earned doctorate! I've also had the patronising "ohhh, you're a wee doctor!" Comment a couple of times because I'm petit and look young. I highly doubt that male doctors get that, ever.
#68847 jody 2014-08-04 23:46
locar bar had ad in newspaper, "Ladies, wear your tiniest black dress and get free wine on Friday night." Yuck. What if you wear a regular black dress? What if you wear a tiny black dress over a t-shirt and leggings? I'd love to stage a flash mob and hand out black dresses to bankrupt them at least on one night.
#68846 parents 2014-08-04 23:34
Currently house sitting with my boyfriend in my boyfriends parents house while they are away for a little while, before i go back to uni. My parents came round to visit us today, my parents all looked at me for any sign of mess. I even said to my boyfriend 'you do realize im gonna hearing about any mess they see later', and sure enough i did. I was told that i was the 'lady of the house' while my boyfriends mother was gone, that his family members of gonna judge me on how well I keep HIS house, that even though its his house i have to do most of the cleaning. When i told them that the dishes in the sink were my boyfriends who had had his dinner after id gone to bed because he'd come back from work late i was told that i should have gotten up earlier to clean up after his mess. God forbid a grown man clean his own stuff. Im sick of all this 'you have a vagina = you need to do all the cleaning' bullshit. My ovaries do not wash dishes. My period does not sweep the house. My vagina does not and should not dictate rolls and responsibilities in a household. Ironically when i mentioned in passing how i had mowed the lawn the day before and had just taken the bins about (traditionally both mens jobs) they didn't say a word.
A few hours after this my mother also asked when she was gonna see 'a ring on my finger'. If everyone could please stop trying to squeeze me into the stepford wife roll i was NOT born to play, that would be great.

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