Author Archives: everydaysexism

J

Why do people need to tell women that they look tired? Ok i look tired – so? Whenever someone says that to me, its always in the tone of: ” hey your nose is running”. I dont care if i look tired, but i know that its not meant as a compliment! (Because we all know women must look: smiley, fresh, upbeat and pretty) So really your just being an asshole. Stop being so “worried” about womens look and try being a decent person. Just try.

BK

I am a 22 year old female who is fed up of receiving sexism at home. I am a person who believes in equality for all genders, races, sexualities and beliefs. I am very careful and respectful about this. However, at home my parents treat us in such ways that clearly prove sexism. Chores are never that important if my brother does not do them (I’ve never ever seen him help out in any kind of way) but whenever I am asked to do anything and ask my mum/dad why they are not telling my brother to do something as well (e.g. chores), it always comes down to them stating that as a female it is more important for me to do it and not him. I argue with them every single day. It gives me so much anxiety. I try to understand because that is how they were bought up but it is really frustrating.

Florencia P

I was in a physical education class, trying to lift 11 pounds, which I couldn’t, therefore my female teacher asks me “How are you going to carry your baby if you can’t lift 11 pounds?”

anonymous

a ” friend” of mine on facebook ( I’m close to deleting this person) was making a while fuss about how his 4 year old son, picked out a bright pink leash for they male dog. he went on a rant going ” this is his mother’s fault !, its a boy dog, why did I let him choose “

Leaving

I got crucified online by Remain voters and my mum was aggressively approached in the gym by a remain voter who got right in her face. Neither knew how we voted but I guess we just weren’t complaining as loudly as the bremoaners when the subject came up and they were suspicious… After all half the population voted leave so they must be somewhere. I know several men who voted leave and are totally ok, no one arguing with them at all, could it be because they are quite large build and male? Or in one case, male and Bangladeshi born “so not racist”. One guy even cheerfully talking about how happy he was with the result, no one questioned it. Brexit – a new way to be sexist and aggressive towards women you barely know. Really wish I’d voted leave now, just to piss off men like this. Not sorry we are leaving even though I didn’t vote leave because I don’t run a business but I have been sexually assaulted by immigrants on more than one occasion and I want to screen them and I want those minority of immigrants who do commit sex offences to be kicked out, which will be a lot easier if Britain has the last say. Guessing considering how hard it is to report sexual harassment without people telling you not to cause trouble for other immigrants (“you’re the racist, they’re not all like that”, yeah I know but that one is) or the police telling you “there’s nothing we can do if he wasn’t from the UK, he’s probably gone home by now” (thanks police! You just don’t want the paperwork do you) this might be an issue? It’s not all about jobs and the economy. Most women I know have at least one immigrant male harassment story, no one says a word for fear of being called racist. But even those of us who didn’t vote Leave now also have to put up with extra male harassment if it’s suspected we don’t entirely agree with the Remain voter male (who is clueless about sexual harassment) and his entitlement. Stop aggressively pushing your opinions on women when you don’t do that to men. Stop using politics as an excuse to talk down random females and dominate a public space. And stop assuming that just because women don’t mention sexual harassment that it hasn’t happened. She might just not wish to share upsetting details of her life for your political sport. Thanks.

Anon

2 days before my 14th birthday i wore a skirt to school (i usually wear trousers) and a boy who is years younger than me told me i had “nice legs”

South africa

Hundreds of protesters took to the streets of Pretoria on Saturday, angered by a rise in violence against women and children in South Africa, including killings and sex attacks. Answering the call by a group calling itself “#Not In My Name” the protesters, most of them men, marched through the streets of the South African capital behind a woman symbolically dressed head to toe in white. “The time to take collective responsibility for our shameful action is now,” said Kholofelo Masha, on of the protest organisers, who described himself as “a loving dad, brother and uncle”. South African men have remained quiet on the issue for too long, he added: “You hear a lady screaming next door, you decide to sleep when you know there is a problem next door… No man should beat a woman or rape a woman while you’re watching”. Reports of the rape and murder of women and girls have been front-page news recently in South Africa, which has some of the worst crime rates in the world. According to official figures, a women is killed by someone she knows every eight hours somewhere in the country and one woman in five has been subjected to at least one act of violent aggression in her life.

Fiona Kerry

Today, at 10:15am, as I got out of my car and walked to my house after completing some errands, I young male leant out of his upstairs window and shouted something inaudible at me. This was followed by laughs inside his room (I could hear these from the other side of the road) and then he shouted ”Do you want to be fingered?” which was followed by more laughter. I stared straight ahead and got in to my house as quickly as I could. This whole situation made me so angry I was shaking but then I became even more angry at my own train of thought. I was thinking ‘how dare this person think he has the right to shout at me and make me feel embarrassed and uncomfortable’ … but it didn’t stop there; I followed that with ‘…at 10:15am in the morning, when I’m just wearing my normal day time clothes, when I’m this close to my house…’ as if that should make a difference! It should have just been ‘how dare he think he has the right to make me feel that way’, period. It doesn’t matter whether you’re in your scruffs in the middle of the day or dressed up on a night out. What’s worse is that I even started to feel slightly embarrassed about how I’d reacted in that I’d ranted to my boyfriend as soon as I got in to the house, then called my Mum and ranted some more and then told my friends via WhatsApp with liberal use of the red face angry emoji. I actually started to question how much I had the right to feel indignant and outraged. I’m still questioning this now… almost 12 hours later and it’s pissing me off. This is the not first time that has happened, it’s been happening since I was at least 15 years old, I’m now 32. Each and every time, I felt embarrassed, awkward, uncomfortable and, at times, threatened. That’s not to mention the times that men think it’s ok to stick their hand up your skirt in clubs as they walk past…To anyone who thinks, ‘oh come on, it’s flattering and it’s not like he actually did anything…you should be flattered’ that’s bullshit. It’s not about a man thinking your pretty or attractive in anyway or about wanting to pay you a compliment, it’s purely about a person thinking that they have the right to objectify someone and that they have the right to say whatever crude, crappy thing they want and I’m sick of it. And I’m sick of the fact that I’m not even sure that I should be outraged about it.

Anon

Apparently you can’t drive with your windows down anymore because, “Hey baby, where you going?” Why is it acceptable to be harrassed on the road and in the safety of your own car no less? Just because I look at your vehicle does not open the doors for conversation. This all happened as I was shoulder checking. Because being a good driver… Because being a responsible citizen… Etc etc.