Author Archives: everydaysexism

Simone

Så skete det sgu for mig. Jeg stod i bus 5A mod Nørrebro, da jeg pludselig mærkede en fremmede mandspersons underliv ramme min røv. Min første tanke var, at det var et uheld indtil det skete igen kort tid efter. Jeg vendte mig om og kiggede vredt på ham, hvilket fik ham til at tage et skridt tilbage. Han var en ældre udlændning. Der var ikke overfyldt i bussen, så det var hundrede procent en overlagt handling fra hans side af. Vi steg af samme sted, jeg ramte ham med min barnevogn og han kiggede skræmt på mig. Jeg følte mig krænket.

Anonym

På UCL har vi en underviser som til et foredrag om innovation har brugt en metafor om en værktøjskasse. Da han var godt i gang med at forklare om de værktøjer man havde (altså hammer, boremaskine osv.), stoppede han sig selv og erkendte at det selvfølgelig ikke var noget kvinderne ville kunne forstå. Han forklarede det derfor med 2 metaforer.. en sytøjsæske og en værktøjskasse..

Ellen

Jeg ønskede mig brændende en gocart af mine farforældtr da jeg var barn – for maaange år siden men det var kun for drenge så fik et dukkehus istedet. Til gengæld fik min fætter nogle år efter, en gocart af dem da han jo var en dreng, på trods af at han overhovedet ikke ønskede sig en. Håber vi endelig kan give vores børn lov til at være dem de er uden alle de kønsstereotyper presset ned over sig.

Anonym

Hejsa…. Jeg er en kvinde på snart 32, og har efterhånden prøvet lidt af hvert…. De seneste to gange mænd har syntes det var iorden at rage på mig var i november 2016… Første gang havde jeg været til julefrokost med bestyrelsen i min fagforening og vi var gået videre.. min kæreste står lige ved siden af, da en ung gut synes han skal tage mig hårdt på røven oppe under min kjole!!! Han fik en lussing og jeg råbte af ham… en kæreste eller veninde kom hen til mig og råbte at jeg ikke sku slå ham, og inden jeg nåede at svare trådte en anden fremmed kvinde på min egen alder til og forsvarede mig❤️ min kæreste turde intet gøre fordi han var mindre end ham gutten der tog på mig… Blot en uge senere skulle jeg til julefrokost i det lokale forsamlingshus med byen… har syntes eb klam mand omkring de 70 år at han skulle tage mig på røven… jeg blev chokeret fordi jeg ikke lige havde regnet med såen noget ville ske der, men fulgte efter ham ned til det bord han sad ved MED SIN KONE!!! Og råbte af ham… og da han kone så syntes hun sku forsvare ham, fik hun at vide at hun ikke sku tage ham med ud, hvis hun ikke ku håndtere fremmede kvinder kom og skældte såen en klam gammel gris ud… de gik 30 min efter og trak sig fra deres poster i forsamlingshus bestyrelsen hvor jeg nu selv sidder… Har igennem hele mit liv, selv helt ned i de tidlige teenage år været udsat for en masse ting… jeg ved det aldrig er min egen skyld og drengene, fyrene, mændene får det Altid at vide…. om det er verbalt eller en lussing! Jeg lader dem aldrig slippe godt fra det!!!

Emily

When my male friend was standing up for a girl that was being wolf whistled, he was applauded by his peers. When I expressed my belief of why it was wrong why it should never happen I got told to “calm down” and was asked what type of lesbian I was.

Jenny

(Sorry bad English) Warning, mentioning rape. This has bothered me for years. We were about 20 years old and a guy told this story at a party. He and some pals were on a cruise and found two willing women they took (is this a word?) to their room. The guy telling the story had sex and fell asleep. His friend apperently could not get it up. So the story went: Suddenly I woke up and this other girl is riding me… The guy looked a little bit unsure when he said that and a little bit like he should be proud… He got a lot of “woohoo” and pats on the back. I was very uneasy and said nothing. (Therefore the regretts) Ten years later and I’m still thinking about this guy being raped in his drunken sleep. I wish I had not been so shy. Why diden’t I speak up? Maybe it would have made a difference to this guy if someone acknowledged how wrong this was? I guess many guys (women too) prefere to think of them selfs as studs and not weak and being abused. But GOD DAMN IT WAS RAPE! and nobody really cared cause the victim wasen’t what you expected. And sure… when you started reading… diden’t you think something was going to happen to the women? We are all guilty of sexism and I love this site for existing.

lucy

A kitchen fitter was at my house the other day and noticed the fairly major garden landscaping works outside. We discussed for a while what my husband and I were doing out there. “He’s doing it all himself is he?” the builder asked despite me referring to “we” and “us” throughout the whole conversation. My husband and I have done just as much heavy digging as eachother. So annoying that the builder just assumed I wasn’t involved. Minor and everyday sexism.

Mary Ann

Three years ago, two outbuildings on our farm burnt down in the early hours of the morning. I was the first to wake up, and the first one outside to try to save any of the animals and items inside the buildings. Because my husband has a disability, he stayed inside to call 911. The animals burned first, so I only managed to get a car out of one building. But that was about it. It was extremely devastating, and I still wake up in the night thinking things are burning. Later, the insurance investigators came out to try to figure out the cause of the fire. Even though I had been the one out the door first, the only one to get close enough to the fire to actually try to save anything, and the primary witness of the origin and spread of the fire, they kept asking when my husband would get home so that they could ask him about how things Really happened.

tracey

yesterday I was driving and waiting to turn right into car park , with a car blocking the entrance to car park. so i waited.2 or three cars behind me. i waited patiently to turn into the car park whilst my girls went to buy some sandwiches etc for lunch. i told them i would wait in car park. so i waited in line to turn in. car three behind me (open top, single male driver) over took the line (which was fine) bu then pulled along side me and said “are you fucking stupid you fucking stupid bitch? What the fuck do you think you are doing? You stupid fucing bitch’ I knew i had done nothing wrong so smiled back and said i am just queuing . ” you stupid fucking bitch don’t you know how to drive?’. Blessing: my daughters were not there; and an older female driver came up to me once i was in the carpark to say: ‘wasn’t he a completely awful man? At least he is going to have an awful day because he is so stressed and we are laughing about him !’ 🙂

Grace Morgan

I play football and wanted to buy new football boots. I went into my local Sports Direct and was shocked when I began looking at the selection of football boots and the labels that stated ‘adidas men’s football boot’. Why men’s? I wondered if these were men’s, where was the women’s section of football boots? Oh wait there wasn’t one. This is 2017, and still labels say ‘men’s football boots’. Women’s football is a thing despite whether people like it or not. It should be accepted and also how off putting to young girls that would go into that shop with their parents to find boots. It could put them off or make them feel awkward. I was shocked to say the least.