Single

Dating blog, real advice: “One final and important point: intelligence is still undoubtedly a positive trait in women, so long as it does not undermine the man’s strength by exceeding his.” So basically don’t dare be smarter than him, he won’t like it. You must be less than him in order to be attractive but don’t worry, only a little bit less.

Rachel

Everyday in my school I’ll hear people calling this person ‘Jabarbara’ just to make fun of him

Roberta

My garden tractor would not start, and I diagnosed the problem as a faulty PTO switch. I don’t have any way of hauling the tractor to a repair shop, so my friend’s husband, who has a utility trailer, offered to help me. Every time I was in the repair shop, either to explain what the problem was, or to pick it up and pay for the repair, the man at the counter spoke only to my neighbor’s husband, not to me. Even when I corrected him and said “I’m over here, I’m the one paying, he is just helping me” the man at the counter would only look at him. Also, even though I told them to check the PTO switch, they tried to charge me 8 hours of labor “to find the problem”. The problem was the PTO switch as I had said. I argued and refused to pay the extra amount and they eventually deducted it from the bill. I am seriously thinking of changing my name to Robert just to confound everyone’s expectations. I also refuse to fill in any part of a form that asks M or F. Why is that relevant for anything (except maybe surgery)? Cheers.

stacey

so many examples in downtown toronto. it saddens me. walking hand in hand with my gf on the boardwalk and having “lez-be-friends” yelled at us; dressed for a night at the orchestra waiting to cross the street at the intersection holding hands and having a car a car slow down to yell something about “___ cute ___”; being followed into the subway (again while holding hands) with someone muttering behind us “no dick is no fun, no dick is no fun, no dick is no fun”. why is it okay to treat people like this? i shunned my body for decades by hiding under ill-fitting clothes just to avoid unwanted attention. so sick of cheating myself out of feeling attractive and not dressing the way my beautiful body deserves to be dressed. so disgusted that to wear clothes that fit me properly means i become a target for the bad behaviour of others.

AL

The Globe and Mail’s recent headline about the trend in makeupless selfies: “Ladies, put your faces back on.”

RL

Yesterday someone at my school lost a bet, and he was told to “Smack her a**”. I learned that he’s done stuff like that before, although he knows that it’s illegal.

Rachel

My friend repeatedly calls a goalie (Bernier) Britney because ‘He’s a wimp.” And other excuses like that.

Frédérique

I was answering a survey with a friend of mine. When the guy in charge read my name, here’s what he told me : – That my parents had no consideration for giving their GIRL a GUY’s name (both the guy and me are French-Canadian, and it’s very common for a girl to have that name in French). – That I must’ve been bullied in school because of that. – And that if he had a girl, he would never give her that name, because he found that it was INAPROPRIATE for a girl. Funny thing is, my friend and I thought he was kidding at first, because we could’ve NEVER imagined someone being as stupid and ignorant as this guy. I’m glad he doesn’t have children.

Kate

I experience sexism everywhere – it is everywhere I look. It is as though the feminist movement never happened! From my boss telling us (females) that he must speak to us in ‘black and white’ terms to avoid us getting emotional or hysterical to listening to men in the mall talk about which passer-by was rape-worthy… I do not make as much money at my job as my male co-horts, and they are unilingual, I speak 4 languages. Traditionally, I have been the bread-winner in my relationships and have provided for myself and family, as well as contributing to my community as well, without equal pay. I have sat on committees and boards and have offered excellent insights and suggestions that, until they are reiterated by a man, go unseen or unheard. I, for one, am sick to death of this double standard and want to see an end to sexism for men and women, girls and boys. Period.