There are moments when I realize how deep some patriachal views are embedded in my own view of the world. One is this: My partner and I agreed from the beginning of our relationship that we have something like “switched gender roles”. That is, I like and do a lot of “male” stuff und he often prefers “female” things. So we sometimes make jokes about role cliches. Sometimes he would say something like: “Oh well… I’m definitely the woman.” (Like when his bag for a weekend holiday is three times bigger than mine.)
And I realized that although he does it, I avoid to call him a woman, because I feel that this would be an insult. Why?? Why do I still feel that being a woman is somehow less worth than being a man?