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I was at a party last night and several people there (including me) turn 50 this year. A cake was brought out with some candles and several of us blew the candles out. One of the men there called across to his wife “Nicky can you blow mine?” I allowed the moment to pass even though I found his comment offensive and am now really annoyed at myself for not challenging him at all or making it clear that his remark was not acceptable – especially as my 13 year old daughter was standing next to him. My instinct to not cause a fuss and make myself unpopular kicked in. Now I have to have a conversation with my daughter about whether she understood the comment, why no one said anything and why someone (especially me) should have. I don’t want her growing up thinking that it’s ok for men to say things like this and get away with it.