Lucy

Hello,

thank you for this project that I beleive is much needed. I would like to share some of my stories that left me feel that regarding sex I am more of a prey than a partner. For the first I experienced got into personal contact with sex(ism) was when I was 12 and I found out my moms 50 year old boyfriend watches me through the keyhole when I change my clothes. I opened them quickly because I wanted to run to the bathroom and found him there, kneeling. I quickly ran off knowing that something was wrong – it took another few years to truly realize what hapenned (as I tried to forget that image and get on with our family life).
My second experience was my incapability to say “No” to sex with a person I was supposed to love. I was 17 and I allowed non-consentual sex with my boyfriend (I will not use “rape” since he was as inexperienced and confused as I was). It took me years to understand that “No” is a valid answer and that I am not obliged to have sex with my boyfriend just because we are in a relationship and that it is me who makes decisions about my own body. And I still do not take this realization for granted when I look at teenage girls.
Thank you for listening.