Two of my female friends have been dumped at the last minute by boyfriends after several years who they thought were going to marry them because they were the “wrong” aka a different religion. Neither of the men were practising that religion but marriage might bring children so suddenly the child has to follow dads tribe even though dad is a closet atheist…. hmmm…
I have also heard men and seen online conversations between men egging each other on, telling each other it’s great to have sex with women of a different religion or ethnicity but not ok to marry them. You practise on the woman from the other tribe then marry a virgin from your religion.
Basically lead them on for a few years get loads of sex then marry a “real” woman from your religion or ethnic group.
Never heard women egg each other on like this. Women are often much slower to get involved with a man from different religion because of community shaming (of the woman usually more than the man)but they don’t encourage each other to “shag and dump” having previously given no clue that it’s a problem.
Nor have I ever seen women tell each other that they must marry a virgin male even though many would prefer it. We’re not supposed to ask.
Woman shaming and woman using. Not noticed it much the other way round, although there was one exception where a non practising “Christian” aka white man was treated like dirt by a Hindu family – he made a big effort to fit in but just wasn’t Hindu. They disowned their daughter and he was thought to have “stolen her.” Seems they didn’t credit her with her own brain….
Really getting married shouldn’t be seen as the mans tribe taking over, children can go to different faith groups and learn both, but above all – encouraging your mates to pump and dump “inferior” females is not ok.