Sasha

I have a love/hate relationship with this website. I love that it exists because it gives us a voice but I hate that it exists because we have to deal with this shit.

So I have a 13 year old niece who’s starting high school in the fall. I’d just texted my mother about sitting my niece down when I come home for Christmas and talking to her about not dealing with sexism bullshit. Her response? “Don’t. She’s fine. She’s surrounded by a group of friends who all love her. It’ll be different for her. Oh, and she has a boyfriend now.”

That’s… not the point, but okay. I had friends who loved me in high school but that didn’t stop one of my male teachers from making comments at least twice a week for 2 years. And like a boyfriend is really gonna stand up for her. I’d be willing to bet money that her “boyfriend” either winds up doing the same sexist shit, or pressures her into having sex way before she’s ready.

I love my mom dearly, but she thinks that because my niece is in a good school and her mother has it “under control” (whatever that means) that I’m going to sit here living 600 miles away and worry about my 13 year old niece getting harassed and potentially groped.

It makes me so angry that my mother, who raised me by herself, seems to think that just because my niece has more people in her life than I did, that it’s suddenly okay to not have these discussions.

And the sad thing? I bet my fiancĂ© will read the texts with my mom and side with her, telling me not to get involved. All because they don’t understand what it’s like to be the victim of sexism. (Maybe my mom used to, but she’s more sheltered now than a 4 year old child.)