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Sexism in a lift

I’m pregnant and while in a lift at work, a man I don’t know asked me a few questions about my pregnancy. The final question was if I knew whether the baby was a boy or a girl. I replied that it was a boy, and he said ‘I bet Dad’s pleased!’ just as we reached my floor.

I then got out the lift feeling annoyed at myself as I hadn’t challenged him but instead said something like ‘well everyone’s pleased whatever…’ This man had not only just made a sexist comment to me, but also assumed that the father of my child would also share his view that a baby boy is a greater cause for happiness than a baby girl. I can’t believe people have such deeply rooted sexist beliefs that they would offer them up to strangers in lifts as if it’s just nice small talk. Makes me sad about the world my baby is being born into and keen to raise a child with different values.

M

I have organised a workplace dinner for all of us to bond and have fun outside the office. During one of the conversations, my senior colleague that was one of three people that interviewed me, said that the only reason I got hired was “because I am a token woman”. It was obvious that it was not a workplace policy or a directive (which was confirmed by HR), but it was definitely unpleasant. I have called him out and I said that I would appreciate his apology. Until today I did not get one.

It is a small thing, but it can grow in your mind, it can plant a seed of self-doubt and a thought that you might not be as skilled as you think you are.

Alisha

Was told by my friend’s husband that I “need to get laid” as he made very forward advances on me while complaining about his wife cheating (which, to my knowledge she would never do and she hates that he doesn’t trust her) When I backed away and told him a flat out no, he said oh sorry, you know men. The things he said to and about me are unrepeatable. How can he say that all men are that vulgar and inappropriate and be fine with it but complain about the “hunch” he has (although he insits that he knows for sure) about his wife sleeping around? I was scared to death.

MP

I was travelling home after a particularly hard day at work, and trying to prevent a headache turning into a full-blown migraine, so chose the quiet carriage for my 2 1/2 hour ride home. A man got on, took the seat in front of me, immediately put a call through to a friend and was talking very loudly to him (one could tell from the conversation that he was talking to a male friend). I let it go for a couple of minutes in case it was to be a short call of the “I’m on the 4.55; pick me up at 6.30” kind, but he soon settled in for a long chat so I said “Excuse me, you may not be aware that this is the quiet carriage. Would you lower your voice please.”

His response was to start telling his friend that ‘some bird’ had just told him to ‘shut up’ and then have a conversation about how I obviously ‘needed a cock up me’, that judging by my looks I’d be grateful if he and his mate ‘sorted me out’, told his friend to bring some others to the station in case I got off at the same place so they could ‘take care of me’, but to warn them that I was a ‘dried up c#@t’. There was more along this line. No-one on the carriage (including me) said anything to him, and there was no guard to whom I could report it. It left me feeling threatened and shaken, but also angry that he thought that this was an acceptable response to being politely asked by a women to speak quietly. If a male had made the same request, would the response have been to make sexual comments and threaten (albeit, one hopes, not seriously) sexual assault?

When I got off the train (not at his station), a woman came up to see if I was OK and said that she never asks men to be quite on the quiet carriage as it is not worth risking such a response. In other words, it was my fault for not being a good woman and letting a male behave in any way he chooses.

Anonymous

At school, our dress code seems to be targeted at girls. No leggings, to bra straps can show, ect. My mom was so mad she couldn’t sleep.

Catcalled

When I was only 7 years old, I was running through a college campus, racing my mother. When I was waiting for her at the end, two middle-aged men on skateboards passed by me, calling out, “Nice!” and whistling at me. Now, I’m nine years old, and I constantly face these types of things at school, and everywhere in general.

fat shamed

I’m nine years old, and when my friend brought up the topic about our bodies, she talked a lot about boobs. She told me that i only had them because I was very fat. I told her that she shouldn’t be a fat shamer, and that im not ashamed of my body. I would never tell another girl that, because i know how it feels. I am fat, and i love me, I dont hate that i get to say i eat way too unhealthy, because I do. It’s my body band I’ll diet if I want to.

Elsa

People around me keep saying boys are stronger than girls. I ask why, and they say”they just are” or “they have hormones that make them that way.” I am a girl. I am 11 years old. And guess what I did befor writing this?

120 push ups
120 squats
An uncountable number of crunches

WITHOUT A BREAK!

I don’t care if boys have hormones or natural stuff out whatever.

I am a girl.
And I am strong.
Stronger than so many boys.
Everyone can be strong.

that woman

Police officers and prison guards have just been awarded a pay rise in excess of the 1% cap that has been in place for some time. Other public sector workers, including nurses and teachers, will have to wait a while longer.

Police officers and prison guards are traditionally seen as male.
Nurses and teachers are traditionally seen as female.

Coincidence?

Charlotte

Greg Doran, Artistic Director of the RSC stating that he actively does not aspire to have 50:50 gender equality in his publicly funded organisation.