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Anonymous

My mother had a car accident the other day with my dads new car. He made the comment ‘all women can’t drive’ and ‘this is why they shouldn’t drive’ – it made me really mad that my mum didn’t say anything so I said ‘that is like saying men can’t cook’ and he got really triggered because he is a chef himself.

Kitty

A dude that I’m vaguely acquainted with (& have never liked that much) said “hello, floss!” to me when we bumped into each other today. I said hello back to be polite, but muttered, “dude, my name isn’t floss” under my breath as I walked off.

Anonymous

So a male colleague who I don’t normally work with, insisted on carrying all of the not-even-heavy equipment today even though I am quite capable of carrying it. I am not used to this kind of behaviour and although it sounds minor, it was very uncomfortable and seemed that he thought I was too weak and pathetic to do my job. If this wasn’t bad enough, I found out this same colleague had requested another male to work with him for a particular task instead of myself, even though this was an area I am particularly qualified in and have worked in for years, which makes me think he has a problem with women or is trying to freeze me out intentionally. I haven’t really had to deal with sexist people before and am not sure how to approach it, but I need to speak to him about the issue soon before it gets worse. Perhaps I should ask my line manager if I can work with someone else.

Telegraph sexism

“Kate beckinsale finds love with a man half her age”

Only we don’t get to see him because the daily telegraph prefers pictures of beautiful women to pretty young men.
Imagine if it had been a male actor – I think we’d have seen the younger girlfriend, don’t you?
And I think the headline wouldn’t have mentioned the age difference.

Enough

Rabinowitz has been thrust into the spotlight over an issue that has become an increasingly familiar problem for airlines flying in and out of Israel: ultra-orthodox men who refuse to take their seats next to women, demanding changes in seating and sometimes causing delays.

After successfully suing the country’s national carrier, El Al, for gender discrimination and winning a landmark ruling, Rabinowitz’s stand now means that flight stewards can no longer request female passengers move seats to accommodate ultra-orthodox men who do not want to sit next to them.

Describing the practice as “discriminatory” Israeli judge, Dana Cohen-Lekah, who heard Rabinwotz’s complaint, on Thursday ruled that “under absolutely no circumstances can a crew member ask a passenger to move from their designated seat because the adjacent passenger doesn’t want to sit next to them due to their gender”.

In February, 10 ultra-orthodox passengers stood in the aisles and refused to take their seats, causing a delay on an easyJet flight to the UK before female passengers agreed to move so the flight could leave.

(Why the hell didn’t the men just politely move??? Why expect women to move?)

Linda

Hurray Imperial college has posted a female engineer on their LinkedIn feed! Oh, it’s talking about pole dancing. (No really – go and take a look…)

Anon

It’s pretty small, but:

In school we were learning about Queen Elizabeth I of England and the male teacher kept on saying about how she was so maternal and motherly because she cared about her country and stuff. Of course she cared cared about her OWN country! It was so annoying, if a guy was a great leader, they would just talk about that, not how was like a parent to it. He said that she was such a great mother to her country and her children. It was so stupid, he never mentioned any king’s children or parenting skills. Nothing wrong with being a mother or anything but if someone is the QUEEN OF A COUNTRY shouldn’t those accomplishments be stated before talking about her parenting skills?

The same teacher kept referring to people as “man.” How “man” made such advancements, and stuff. And he defined a philosopher as a “man” who seeks greater meanings, and we still learned about a female philosopher!

RubyG

At a friend’s ladies party, a friend’s husband dropped in late on. I had not met him before.
He made a beeline for me, topping my glass and telling me how beautiful he thought I was, all in earshot of his wife.
I moved away from him and he laughed and joked with a couple of the other ladies who knew him.
He then made further attempts at getting my attention, including pinning me in my chair whilst saying “if I could, I would ”
His wife joined in later saying how beautiful she thought I was too.
Freak show!
How would/should you respond?

unknown

I was riding my bike in shorts and a regular t-shirt, it was like 30 degrees and I was just enjoying my ride when not even 5 minutes from leaving my home I was honked at by some guy in a car, the guy next to me at the lights asked if I knew who he was (I assumed he wasn’t beeping at me) and the man next to me informed me that the guy who honked was trying to grab my attention; I ignore this incident and went about my bike ride, not even 2 minutes after that I was hopping off my bike and 2 guys in a ute slowed down to 10mph to watch me get of my bike and yelled and hollered at me, and lastly, about 5 minutes after that I was again honked at!! Im ashamed to say I haven’t rode my bike since in fear of my safety.

Reddit dude

The only private subreddit I know of is /r/foreveralonewomen, which went private because 4chan kept raiding them with hate mail.

4chan really hates women. There was some angst all the way back in the late 2000’s when I frequented the site, but nowadays with the whole anti-feminism movement in full swing they’ve arrived at a seething hatred of all western women.