Divorce

Melody

I’m only just now, at 65 years old, realizing how sexism has affected each and every one of my relationships. MY OWN benevolent sexism beliefs put me automatically into the submissive role where I believed I HAD to comply with their wishes and NEVER make them wear a condom. My second and third husband and I fell into the benevolent sexist script where I felt taken care of; but the trade off is that I could NOT speak what I truly felt about anything and certainly not when they started being more overtly hostile with their sexism. They ALL felt entitled to me complying with multiple partners, only with the last one did I refuse and he began having sexual encounters without me which I was supposed to just accept. I didn’t and divorced at 63.

Anon

My soon to be ex husband says that he provides me with free childcare, and does me a favour when he’s looking after our children. On a rare occasion when I worked extra hours in the evening (with several weeks’ notice and having organised childcare), he said I was “failing to fulfil my obligations to look after the children”