XTina
Coercive control is not a law in the USA. It only became one in the UK in 2015. In this Amber Heard vs Johnny Depp story, the ‘fans’ of him require her to have bruises… or there then is no ‘abuse,’ but from my experiences, colleges, police, and any ‘authority’ tends to believe the men over the women. Abuse doesn’t require bruises. It can be social, emotional, economic, etc. I’ve blocked probably 40 people on twitter arguing for her defense. I believe in self-defense, and was taught lessons in Arizona in elementary school. Not every culture believes in self-defense. I had 0 training in that in Northeast California… I think those are the ones attacking women on twitter about Heard’s case. I am happy that Heard is supporting women and other victims. Her personality of defiance and feistiness makes people question her because she isn’t meek. But as we see on everyday sexism, meekness and not doing anything does nothing too. But why must we attack the brave who speak out? It’s disgusting. People can hit both ways, but Depp is in the power position, and is the larger player. In these sexist people’s views, there can only be hitting in one direction. I’m glad 3 male friends agree that Heard is believable, but I have to look at the past of toxic relatives (mainly 1) who were narcissistic and did coercive control. They walk free with their victims the losers. Especially the male does. People want to think that people will be reasonable and fair, but that’s not true. Having police, schools, and authority not believe is common. To keep talking to the media and at pro-women’s groups is believable. I’ll always be against domestic abuse, but the way society is, it makes us helpless to change it.