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I went to turkey with my family. I was 15 at the time. I was groped multiple times in the train by men who were way older than me. I felt so uncomfortable. i din’t say anything but i moved away from them as quick as possible the moment i realised it. it happened about 8 times. Turkey is a hot country so i was wearing a skirt though i know what i was wearing would not matter. Just being a women is enough to be targeted. I once had a long distance friend who i spoke to on instagram, he was a guy and he once told me to show hims my tits. when i said no he said “other girls do that stuff” so i said “not me” he didn’t continue further wiht the request but he did moan over the phone and that was when i went silent on the phone until he hung up. 7 months later he randomly said he wanted to “fuck me” and he once told me that he would want to see “someone fuck me in the bum because it would be funny”, I did not find it funny at all, i felt vulnerable and small. I didn’t realise how bad it was because majority of the time we had a great friendship that it completely took me by surprise when it did come up. I kind of hinted at the shift in his behaviour and he just said “looks can be deceiving”. Once in school i was on a school trip and i went to a girls school, there was a moment when everyone was walking ahead of me and i stood still because i was really caught up daydreaming and suddenly i felt a presence beside me, it was a teacher who stood right next to me in a very empty room so his arm can tough mine and at first i didn’t really think much of it and i thought he would move but he just stood there but facing behind me i turn around and i can see that he was pretending to read writing on a wall but really it was just so he could be close to me i was a kid so i froze up like children normally do when they are scared but i had a feeling that he had this weird interest in me by how he stared at me and how he made sure i sat near him in one of his classes because of his seating plans.

anonymous

when i was 15 i met a guy online. he was my best friend at the times friend. i hadn’t met him but immediately felt uncomfortable by him making remarks how he would “fuck me so hard” when we met and pressure me into sending nudes when i wasn’t comfortable doing so. i later found out that he had told my best friend that we were sharing nudes and i was consensual to it. and when i told him that’s not what happened, he became closest friends with my ex.

Joanna

I have an instagram where I post near daily pics of my outfits. I’ve had this account since I was about 15 and I’m 22 now. In my teen years, I frequently got older men DMing me my own photos with some form of odd or gross commentary. One of these incidents that I remember vividly was a man DMed my photo of me wearing distressed black tights and he said “it could’ve been me who ripped those tights” and added a winky face emoji. I told him “what the fuck” and he said “I am just being honest!”

A

To the post on the 20 January 2023 about men with long hair not being asked if they’re gay… Nah, that does happen, a lot. I’ve been called gay, a fag, homo, and many other things. I’ve also been groped and sexually assaulted by women and men. Sometimes the men don’t realize that I’m a man until they grab and I turn around. That one is always fun to see their faces but then they immediately follow it up with a “you fag.”

Mo

The constant accusation by the red top press and elsewhere that a women is ‘flaunting’ something (dress, abs, legs, backside, etc) is aggressive and abusive. Women wear clothes they enjoy – it is not flaunting anything. This word should become a total no-no when used to describe any female, as the word feisty is; let’s start challening its use please

Isabelle

I was sexually harassed by a boy in track. I told other girls. Basically ended up being told that “he needs to be allowed to clear his name.” And “we are forming a safety plan.”- that didn’t happen until next year. I was tricked by the admin.

Alison

I was sexually abused as a child and imagined that the experience made me, some how, different. I wondered whether I was ‘setting off a hormonal reaction’ in men – maybe smelling different? Because as a child, a teen, pregnant, a young mum, middle-aged and now fifty, with multiple sclerosis – I have been consistently; molested, leered at, touched, commented upon, put down, treated inappropriately etc…the list is endless. I now know that it is not just me – it is happening to all women and girls.

E

Around 2 years ago when I was 11 or 12 years old, I was on a game where you could send pictures on your story and easily delete them afterwards and a man asked me to look at his story so I did. He had put up a video of him feeling his willy. I stopped watching ofc and he took it down and I can’t remember what happened next but I do know that I haven’t told anyone until now.

Anon

I’ve never ever told anyone this before… But I was sexually abused when I was a child. A man phoned me at home and slowly and expertly manipulated me, tricked me and used me. It was only a one off occurrence but it’s affected me my whole life. It’s been close to fifteen years…

F

Comicsgate. They affect my day to day life online. As a massive comic fan I feel I can’t share my opinions without inviting a barrage of hate and abuse online. My favourite characters are under utilised because they are women, mt favourite storylines are often cut short, my favourite movies and TV shows receive review bombing and unfair criticism and the actors who portray these heroes are unfairly hounded and judged online. It sours my love of comics and inhibits my ability to interact with other fans on public forums without attracting abuse.