-I saw a card in Waitrose today which was a ‘Man Card’. It had a picture of a tool kit, a picture of a car, a picture of a football & a picture of something else (possibly a beer) on it, with the words “Have a manly birthday”. Because of course the only things men are interested in are the above things, & of course only men like them! Gender stereotyping yet again. I didn’t see a ‘Lady Card’, but I imagine it would be pink (although to be fair, the ‘man card’ was not blue), & have such things as flower arranging & cooking on it! -The fact that if you’re a stay-at-home dad, you can expect to be referred to as ‘Mr Mom’. -The fact that TV companies think it’s acceptable to humiliate women by getting them to appear on shows like 100% Hotter & 10 Years Younger, having them stand in the street & have random strangers give their opinions on how old they look or on their appearance (this can be really nasty) & then proceed to either ‘make them under’ in the same way that they do on Snog, Marry, Avoid from what I can gather or have them undergo umpteen surgical procedures to make them look younger, because heaven forbid a woman should grow old gracefully- something men are allowed to do without judgement, it seems.
I was on social media a while ago and I came across a black and white image of a barely clothed women standing in the kitchen. She was facing away from the camera but had nothing covering her top half, and only had a skimpy thong and heels on beside that. I went to the comments section and the most liked comment was “good girl, she’s where she should be.” I was disgusted by this and so called this account out on their “joke.” Within a minute, I had over fifty comments telling me, either how it was just a joke, or making more sexist comments like “honey, you need to be in the kitchen, not online.” Not a single person backed me up in calling this guy out, every account, even female ones, backed him up in telling me to either lighten up or get off the app. I shouldn’t have to stop going on certain things in order to stop seeing sexist content. Shouldn’t be there in the first place. On the same app, I come across inappropriate photos of girls daily. Never any of men. Either photos where they’re only in underwear (or less) or one where they’re wet and so their top is very see through. These obviously get loads of likes, comments and shares. However, my posts saying how wrong these posts are get zero likes and all the comments verbally assault me. The only shares I get on them is so that others can comment abuse on the photo. It honestly makes me feel sick.
So I’m watching TV and I’m watching a show. In the show, the female lead’s friend from her past comes back and insists they go out together. She asks the male lead (female lead’s husband) if she can go out but doesn’t even bother to ask the female lead if she wants to go out. What a message to send to people, that you have to ask a woman’s husband if she can go out but that you don’t need to ask the person who is actually going out.
I just posted a selfie on an app (not that it matters but I was completely clothed and the selfie only showed my face). The first user to comment is a guy who also shares the photo. His comment is “add me on snapchat,” with his snapchat user. I say no because I don’t know him. He follows with “can’t just be friends” I once again say no. He continues so I say “dude, no means no.” I then ask if he can un-share my photo because he had no right to share it, especially without my consent. I then go onto his profile and see loads of photos of semi-naked / naked girls on it, all repubbed from other accounts. My photo is the ONLY one which shows that I’m wearing something. I confront him and say that if he doesn’t unrepub my photo, I’ll report him. I’ve just checked back and luckily, he’s unrepubbed my selfie, meaning I don’t have to delete it. However, I find it humiliating and disgusting that he felt he had the right to repost my selfie without my consent just because he felt I was attractive, and then didn’t ask me for my snapchat, TOLD me I was going to add him, and then he doesn’t do the decent thing of unrepubbing, no, it takes the threat of me reporting him to get him to remove it. In the end I decided to report him anyway, as well as block him. He didn’t act appropriately once in the situation and I honestly think I made the right call.
I’ve just had a guy mansplain to me my own character out of my own story, who happens to be a girl. Didn’t mansplain my male character though. How is that okay?
The other day, I saw an advert for a brand of powdered baby milk. It shows the baby and then the profession they go into. Obviously the baby girl is shown to be a ballerina while the two baby boys are shown to be a mathematician and a climber. Embedding sexist stereotypes from a young age is great, isn’t it? And people say we no longer need feminism
I live in the county by a long, paved road, so I go for a walk everyday down that road at five when I get home. One day when I was crossing the four way intersection and a truck turned left behind me, a man stuck his head out the passenger side window and yelled “nice ass!” I didn’t think anything of it and went home, but then I started seeing the truck more and more. A week later, that truck followed me home. The man got out of the truck and started talking to me about how hot I was and whether or not I was single (which I wasn’t at the time). I told him to leave, and he tried to pin me to the garage door. Luckally, I knew how to fight and managed to get him off and run inside. Later on a forum I was on online, I told that story. A guy who I didn’t know on the forum started calling me a ‘tattle tail’ and a liar, saying that I was over reaction and I should’ve taken it as a compliment. I told him that the man was at least late twenties to early thirties, and at the time, I was only thirteen. The guy proceeded to tell me that I shouldn’t be walking alone, and that obviously if I’m walking alone at night I do need a guy to belong to (his exact words). I proceeded to tell him I’m gay and have a girlfriend, so no, I don’t need a guy to belong to.
This isn’t a casual sexism story and it’s not about me but it makes me feel sick every time I think about it. For those unaware of the Brock Turner case, a college student raped an unconscious girl and stuck foreign objects in her. This went to trial, unlike the thousands of other rape cases that never make it to court. Anyway, the rapist was only given six months because “what he did badly affected him and any longer sentence would affect his swimming career.” After being given an insultingly short sentence, he was let out after three months for good behaviour. Meanwhile, his victim can’t go outside because she’s scared it’ll happen again. This sickens me to a point I can’t describe. This is a perfect case in proving that if you’re rich, white and a male, you can get away with anything, including ruining someone’s life. This makes me scared to be a woman. I’m only 16 and thankfully I’ve never experienced any kind of sexual assault, once again unlike many girls my age, but it makes me scared that if I’m ever raped or even sexually assaulted, my perpetrator will walk free and my life will be ruined. Women should not have to live in this fear. We should be living in a world where if someone is raped, they get justice and the rapist gets put behind bars. But no. We live in a world where if you have money and if you’re a male, you can ruin lives and no one gives a shit. Thank you for allowing me to rant. This is the only place I can rant like this and not receive so much criticism for what I have said. So thank you
It’s unfair how life happens and women get treated like sh*t and men don’t but over time u just have to live with it and the more u complain the worse it will get. #MAGA #crookedHillary #FAKENEWS
I’m currently watching XXX Return of Xander Cage. When Vin Diesel’s character is introduced, it’s through an action sequence where he climbs an areal tower, steals a box and then proceeds to get rewarded with sex from an obviously skinny, attractive girl. When the first female lead is introduced, it’s through a shot of her swimming in a pool, wearing a skimpy bikini. When she climbs out of the pool, there is a slow camera shot showing off her body and then once again, Vin Diesel is rewarded with sex with all of the female lead’s girl friends. Needless to say I’m pretty disgusted with the clear differences in how the characters are introduced. The male is introduced with an action sequence with a shootout. The female is introduced with a slow shot of her body in a small bikini followed by giving the male her friends to fuck. Wow.