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Eleanor

It’s the little things. The everyday occurrences that, before reading ‘Everyday Sexism’, I didn’t notice, brushed off and ignored. The more you look the more you see the inherent sexism in society that NOONE seems to acknowledge. 1. A few months ago I was getting into my car (with my male friend who onlookers may have presumed my boyfriend), I was modestly dressed (not that that should make a difference) and minding my own business when a man walking past wolf whistled at me – HOW IS THIS FLATTERING IN THE SLIGHTEST!! – I stuck him my middle finger, to which he seemed shocked at but also I think I successfully damaged his confidence and pride! My friend was shocked that this happens – he said ‘I see this on movies but I didn’t know it happened all the time’ – welcome to the unfortunate world of being a woman! 2. I was at a nightclub with my mum and sister (a bit lame I know) and my sister and I went to the bathroom. On our way past some sleaze grabbed my bum – I was shocked, but I hit his hand away (unfortunately I missed his ‘crown jewels’). On my way back out of the bathroom he did it AGAIN!!! I was even more shocked this time, and actually more than that, I was very pissed off! I was too shocked to react but in retrospect really wish I had! – On this same night another man thought it acceptable to touch me up while I was dancing with my mum!! – What’s wrong with these men!! 3. I am a recent graduate and have my first professional position after uni. In a meeting we had to get out tables and chairs from a cupboard – I went to help and grab a table when one of the men opened the other door where the chairs were with comment that ‘they’d be easier for me’ – I may be a woman, but I’ve managed thus far!! 4. In a supermarket the other day I heard an older ‘gentleman’ invite a female member of staff to an event if she ‘wears only a black tie’. 5. On a night out with a group of friends and my boyfriend we walked past a couple of lads, one of which shouted at me “I could fuck you better than he could [gesturing towards my boyfriend] any day!” 6. Another night out a bouncer says to my partner “Your girlfriend has some cracking tits” – I was wearing a modest blouse, buttoned up. 7. At the age of 16-18 I worked in a cafe. The delivery driver (about 50 years old with children my age) would say to me “If you were only 30 years older…” – it was cringy and uncomfortable – my 22 year old self as I currently am would have had something to say, but unfortunately at 16 I didn’t have the confidence to be outspoken. 8. At school (aged 12 – 14) in cooking class, the class ‘player’ putting flour on his hand and slapping all the girls on the bum to leave a mark. 9. At a conference with my boss and the conference organiser assuming I’m my boss’s daughter – because a young female can’t be a professional in her own right. Seriously, this list is endless, but it’s not all bad – after reading everyday sexism I have spoken to my partner about some of the horrendous things that happen! – I think he was previously blind to these things, being a respectable man and not thinking that other men behave the way they do. He came home from work (new job) the other day and told me that he witnessed a man making derogatory, sexist comments towards a female colleague of his, unfortunately he was unable to say something at the time but I was proud to hear he had approached his colleague after to ask her about it, if she was ok and if it happens a lot – she, apparently, seemed surprised he had asked and also grateful for his concern – goes to show that most men don’t notice the inherent sexism embedded in our society – I think he’s a keeper. As you can see, sexism obviously doesn’t exist in 2017!

Eleanor

It’s the little things. The everyday occurrences that, before reading ‘Everyday Sexism’, I didn’t notice, brushed off and ignored. The more you look the more you see the inherent sexism in society that NOONE seems to acknowledge. 1. A few months ago I was getting into my car (with my male friend who onlookers may have presumed my boyfriend), I was modestly dressed (not that that should make a difference) and minding my own business when a man walking past wolf whistled at me – HOW IS THIS FLATTERING IN THE SLIGHTEST!! – I stuck him my middle finger, to which he seemed shocked at but also I think I successfully damaged his confidence and pride! My friend was shocked that this happens – he said ‘I see this on movies but I didn’t know it happened all the time’ – welcome to the unfortunate world of being a woman! 2. I was at a nightclub with my mum and sister (a bit lame I know) and my sister and I went to the bathroom. On our way past some sleaze grabbed my bum – I was shocked, but I hit his hand away (unfortunately I missed his ‘crown jewels’). On my way back out of the bathroom he did it AGAIN!!! I was even more shocked this time, and actually more than that, I was very pissed off! I was too shocked to react but in retrospect really wish I had! – On this same night another man thought it acceptable to touch me up while I was dancing with my mum!! – What’s wrong with these men!! 3. I am a recent graduate and have my first professional position after uni. In a meeting we had to get out tables and chairs from a cupboard – I went to help and grab a table when one of the men opened the other door where the chairs were with comment that ‘they’d be easier for me’ – I may be a woman, but I’ve managed thus far!! 4. In a supermarket the other day I heard an older ‘gentleman’ invite a female member of staff to an event if she ‘wears only a black tie’. 5. On a night out with a group of friends and my boyfriend we walked past a couple of lads, one of which shouted at me “I could fuck you better than he could [gesturing towards my boyfriend] any day!” 6. Another night out a bouncer says to my partner “Your girlfriend has some cracking tits” – I was wearing a modest blouse, buttoned up. 7. At the age of 16-18 I worked in a cafe. The delivery driver (about 50 years old with children my age) would say to me “If you were only 30 years older…” – it was cringy and uncomfortable – my 22 year old self as I currently am would have had something to say, but unfortunately at 16 I didn’t have the confidence to be outspoken. 8. At school (aged 12 – 14) in cooking class, the class ‘player’ putting flour on his hand and slapping all the girls on the bum to leave a mark. 9. At a conference with my boss and the conference organiser assuming I’m my boss’s daughter – because a young female can’t be a professional in her own right. Seriously, this list is endless, but it’s not all bad – after reading everyday sexism I have spoken to my partner about some of the horrendous things that happen! – I think he was previously blind to these things, being a respectable man and not thinking that other men behave the way they do. He came home from work (new job) the other day and told me that he witnessed a man making derogatory, sexist comments towards a female colleague of his, unfortunately he was unable to say something at the time but I was proud to hear he had approached his colleague after to ask her about it, if she was ok and if it happens a lot – she, apparently, seemed surprised he had asked and also grateful for his concern – goes to show that most men don’t notice the inherent sexism embedded in our society – I think he’s a keeper. As you can see, sexism obviously doesn’t exist in 2017!

Lara

I was in a student bar with some friends at a saturday night. It was a lively place and people already had started dancing. When we went to the bar to order something to drink, a man “accidentally” grabbed my butt. I turned around, looking that man straight into his eyes and said: “Why did you just grabbed my butt? This is disgusting”. He smiled at me, looked to his two friends who supported him by standing behind him, and said: “Oh donĀ“t you make such a fuss, I have a girlfriend”. I answered that I felt sorry for his girlfriend and thought I had handled the situation adequatly. My friends said, I should ignore it. After a while at the dancing floor, the same man and the same pals of him came to me again to grab my butt. I went to the waiter at the bar to let them be throw out. But they already ran away. The worst thing that night was not these three guys harassing me, but my friends who did not even care. They said, as long as nothing happend I should not make such a fuss. There were a little embarrest that I was being so angry. They said, my reaction even make them feel better and provoked them to continue harrasing me. They blamend me. I was sad, but not agry at my friends. It is just terrible that young and strong women think and behave like this. Here is a call to all the women that are reading my story: Support other women when recognising they are harrased by man. And man should do so, as well.