Tag Archives: Workplace

anonymous

The male conductor of a university student orchestra wanted the male members of the orchestra to escort the female members of the orchestra up the aisle of a church onto the stage at a concert. All the women in the orchestra reacted to this is in different ways- anger, a sense of feeling put out, some were perplexed, confused…- they said things like “we’re not that pathetic”. All the women I spoke with identified with the sexist quality of this action. All members of the orchestra refused to do it.

nothing

Why can’t men have an intelligent debate about a topic with women? I’m not implying men are dumb because most are certainly not, but 9/10 a man can’t handle a woman refuting or disagreeing with them. Here is how a typical debate between men goes. 1. Man #1 states his opinion on something and gives reason 2. Man # 2 disagrees and gives reasons why 3. Man #1 refutes these claims and discusses the weaknesses with the argument 4. Man #2 defends his own argument something along those lines… HOwever, if you put a woman in the second mans place itll go something like this: 1. Man starts off by giving an overview on the basics of the topic, including history (in a debate with another male, its assumed the male knows all this.) He then gives his opinion and the reasons for it. 2. Woman disagrees and starts to give her reasons 3. Man raises his voice, interrupts woman mid reason and says something like “rubbish” “youre being silly” 4. Woman continues to try to calmly explain her views. 5. Man gets slightly put off and annoyed, either walks away or tells her shes overreacting tells her to calm down etc I’ve also noticed when a male gets riled up about a topic, its called passion.. Yet women are called hysterical, told to calm down

Jody

I have made my own way in life in many aspects. I have the money now to buy my own house for myself and my son. I took my boyfriend, who earns considerably less than me and has not had my extensive career, with me to my first house visit. (Incidentally, my boyfriend is an amazing man who is very supportive of me and my career and he helps out with raising my son, etc.) The man showing me the house made eye contact with my boyfriend only and talked to him the whole time even though I had made it clear that I was the one buying. Even when I would ask an informed question, he spoke to my boyfriend. Another agent literally asked me what my husband earned. When I said I had no husband, he asked how I would pay for the house. He wanted to make sure I wasn’t just visiting out of curiosity. I live in France.

Charlie

A colleague of mine came to the office one morning to find several handwritten notes on her desk, all addressed to her and filled with sexual content. As her superior, I reported it to the head of the company. He told me he thought he knew who was behind it and then advised me not to encourage my colleague to report it, as the person in question “could lose his job” and it was “a joke”. I did encourage her to report it but, in the end, she did not.

Andy

Ok so many women experienced sexism which is a truly terrible thing. As a man I have worked in female dominated industries as and shock horror women in positions of power can be equally sexists n uses this to their advantage. If I was to slap a female colleague on her behind this would seemed to be sexist n frown upon, however, I have experienced this multiple times and just have to grin and bare it. I’ve also been gripped in my groin too. If we are going to have an open and frank discussion about sexism in the work place let’s remember that some women are equally bad as me

Olivia

When I was around 20 years old, I attended an arduous military course that not many women participate in (or pass)…I won’t go into specific details as I still serve and don’t want to be identified at present. I was the only female on the course (of about 30 participants) also the only female in the entire camp. The lead ‘para’ instructor was absolutely dead-set on me not passing the course and made many attempts to intimidate me throughout the course. I’ve heard people say in the past that everyone in the Forces is picked on for one thing, be it their name, their appearance or some other trait. Fine in the name of lighthearted banter, but this was clearly sexism in my eyes. He repeatedly called me “Doris” and continually asked me whether I thought I could pass the course, “are you sure, Doris?”. When carrying some weighted bags on a fitness session, he commented that : “if you can carry your shopping bags, I’m sure you can carry these”. When I did pass the course, he gave me a crushing handshake of false congratulations. I cannot explain how victorious I felt to have passed because he didn’t want me to, but also how angry I was that he thought this was acceptable behaviour. He even openly mentioned that females had made complaints against him in the past. I felt powerless to challenge his comments at the time because I wanted to pass the course and he was in charge and a higher rank than me. This is the only brazenly sexist asshole I’ve met in my military career but I’ll never forget him.

Not again

They just hired someone at work who has a 2 year diploma who is making several thousand $ more than I do. I have a Masters degree. Now, I am teaching him how to do his job and job hunting.

Tina

I was managing a guy in a learning centre and my boss suggested he would benefit from me mentoring him a bit as he wasn’t doing well.I spent a bit of time encouraging him and building his confidence.After a few weeks he sent me an email saying when and how he wanted to make love to me.I showed my boss who took him aside.The guy said I had been nice to him and so assumed I fancied him. The guy was moved to another centre with all men and it went no further.My boss said he would be ok in the other centre because they had a male manager and “ha ha,he won’t fancy him,ha ha”.He got the sack later for hitting off on women learners as I told them he would. I really felt that everyone else considered me a bit pathetic for telling my boss and that I ought to have just laughed it off.

Connie

Going out in a club, trying to fight across a crowded dancefloor and a guy grabbing my boob. At 21 saying to the guy I was seeing that I was on my period and therefore didn’t want to have sex and him saying ‘I don’t care’ and pulling my legs apart. Going out for dinner with two of my colleagues and listening to them talking about ‘taking girls to pieces’.

Anna

I was at a work meeting with lots of other head teachers. At lunch I sat down beside two male heads i hadnt met before and one immediately started asking if i sat there to sit near the handsome ones. On another occasion as a younger teacher at a school i worked in the male head stopped to talk to me and my year group partner. we were going swimming in the afternoon with our classes. he asked if we got in the pool, if we wore bikinis and then said he might come down to see…all the time he was talking to us he was rubbing his nipple through his shirt!