Mom
My MIL was staying with my family for a while so we could care for her. One day were all having dinner and she said to me that I was too soft with our daughter. I asked her, ‘why’? She said to me that if she had a daughter, she’d be hard on her because life is hard and she needs to learn that early. My daughter was 6. I responded that actually, you are correct that life often isn’t fair to women but that’s all the more reason for me not to be hard on her. Shouldn’t she have at least one place she can feel safe and be able to be herself without judgement? Home should be a place you can feel safe. That woman taught my daughter that she needs to be attractive to be acceptable in society despite my best efforts to stop her. We ended up forcing her to leave eventually for other reasons, but the damage is done. My daughter adores her abuela and it will take years for her to see that what she taught her was misguided. Sometimes women are worse sexists than men.