Okay, I’m the newbie, I get it, it’s my job to make the cuppas and do the jobs that no-one else wants to do like vacuum the shop and empty the rubbish bins and clean the kitchen up. But you don’t have to insinuate that it’s my place to do that because I’m female. Gender has nothing to do with it, mate.
Me (twenty-something female in shapeless uniform): “Hi, did you find everything you were looking for? How are you today?” Fifty or sixty-something male customer: “Pretty.” *long pause* “Good.” *pause* “I just paused so that you could catch my full meaning there.” Me: *creeped out* “… Okay, sir. And was that everything you wanted to buy today? Will that be cash or eftpos?” (Mentioned it to a coworker later on and she said she’s seen guys full-on groping the female staff. Sheesh. Is it too much to ask for a little respect?)
Im a fairly well muscled guy and today i got called sexy by a women i dont know. I was with my friends who i guess are accustomed to it because the only thing i heard about it was abit of teasing when we got home about how i was sexy. I cant see the difference between this and cat calling, but nobody seemed phased by a person 2 times my age complimenting my appearance on the street.
Some guy on the street came up to me and told me i looked good. I had no idea who he was and although my friends and other people around me were disgusted he seemed to be in shock when i slapped him.
at a party a boy grabbed me and stayed with me for over an hour asking me why i didnt want to hook up and what was wrong with him. no wasnt an answer, and my wanting to not was not good enough. the only way i got away was when another guy came in to the room and i went with him, because he respected another males greeting than my preferance
So now we have to sit through softcore porn disguised as air safety videos, eh? Can’t turn the screen off, can’t not hear what they’re saying. What the flip do photoshopped models on beaches wearing next to nothing and speaking in thinly-veiled innuendo have to do with air travel?
I had a brief mostly emotional relationship with someone in an institution I study at, this person is the same age as me but in a senior possition. We have tried to remain friends and still spend lots of time together, however I still feel he thinks he has some ownership over me, esspecially as he has tried to be a support in my career. When I protest the way i feel, he sulks and threatens calling off the friendship.
When I was studying abroad in New Zealand, my host was the most sexist individual I’ve ever had the displeasure of meeting. He felt protective of his 16 year old little sister because of the predators in clubs, but he would go out and objectify women. On many occasions I heard him saying things about how women aren’t as strong/funny/smart as men are, and MANY MANY comments implying that looks are the most important thing a woman has to offer. In particular, I remember him bragging about sexual conquests and bedding “chicks”. He’d talk about the “hot-crazy scale” and how after he had sex with a girl, he was like, “I know you dumped me but I already f*cked you so you’re worthless anyway.” As if her value was somehow used up by sex. And this was the type of drivel I had to endure at the dinner table. These horrific microaggressions happened on the daily. I felt like I couldn’t openly question him because as host, he had control of finances.
Back in high school (in china), there was two incidents of attack on women near the school area. when a teacher told us evening study time will now be shortened because of it, he also added that girls need to be more careful, don’t walk alone on the streets, don’t wear revelling clothes, etc; and that “isn’t you asking for it if you dress inappropriately”. Nothing was said to the boys whatsoever, and no common was made about the attacker. Another time when high school just started, a teacher (who is a woman) give us a long speech about how there is more pressure on boys to success and achieve things, how they should try harder in school, and girls “have it easy”, they should focus more on having a family. I felt very uncomfortable about all of these things, but I couldn’t quite explain why, and none of the other students ever discussed it or expressed similar feelings, so I kept quiet. When I tried to talk to family members, they agreed with the teacher on at less the first one. It felt lonely and powerless. Now I’m older and heard other people’s stories, I’ve learned to explain why victim blaming and stereotypical expectations of women is a problem, and we need feminism now just as much as we ever did. My family said that they thought more about it after i’d talked to them, and now they think I have a point. It feels powerful and not alone knowing people are trying to make a difference, and that I can help in doing that.
I was looking for somewhere to go play some bowls in Auckland with a couple of friends when I stumbled across this on the Auckland Bowling Club membership page. There are three membership options, Full member, Social member and associate member. The social member option is described as “Any person who does not wish to enjoy full membership status but wishes to enjoy an ongoing association with the Club may become a Social Member. Social Members shall be entitled only to participate in social and pavilion activities and shall have no right to participate in bowling events at or on behalf of the Club. They shall have no right to speak or vote at Club General Meetings.” However it is the only option for women to choose. The other two options are only for men who would like to join. A little bit crazy considering it’s 2014. Yes sexism is very present in every day life however I find it uncommon to stumble across such an overt, outdated exemplar of it. I have emailed to ask if it is still their policy, and if so why (/how they try justify it).. interested to hear what comes back. http://www.aucklandbowlingclub.com/membership.php