Lily
There have been multiple instances on nights out with my friends where what I say to men who hit on me isn’t respected. Almost every time I’ve been hit on and I’ve told them I’m gay, they haven’t respected that – they’ve straight up ignored me sometimes. One time, immediately after I told a guy I was gay, he invited me back to his house to have sex with him. With my most recent incident of this him and all of his friends didn’t take me seriously, and I ended up being raped by the guy who had hit on me. It’s gotten to the point where saying I’m gay just doesn’t feel like a no, it doesn’t feel like enough. It doesn’t feel like I’m really saying anything. But the actual fact of the matter is that lesbians are so highly sexualised that we’re just presented as a challenge, that we secretly do want it. It makes me feel so sick and angry.