intoxication

Anonymous

It was new year’s eve 2019-20. It was the first time my parents didn’t host the neighbourhood party so I was in a house I was not very comfortable in. Me and my friends, who are both older than me at 17 and 18 while I’m 14 were dancing in the living room with our parents having the time of our lives. There were some of our parents friends there and one of them was a middle aged man. He (and his husband) both came to the party as distant friends of a friend, so we didn’t know him well. He started talking to us admiring our music taste. At first I thought this wasn’t weird but as the night went on and he continued to talk to us he made odd comments about STDs and made me very uncomfortable. He got very close to my friends and me while dancing and we were so uncomfortable we wanted to leave. At first we told my dad and he said ‘He’s drunk don’t worry about it’ and so we went to the shed (where the ‘kids’ were hanging out) and continued to discuss it. We decided it was unfair for us to have to leave after having fun because he was being inappropriate. We then told my friends mum and she was outraged and forced him to leave. I think it’s outrageous that both me and my father thought his behaviour was acceptable because he was drunk and that I thought it was my responsibility to leave a toxic situation. This kind of behaviour is outrageous and being intoxicated is no excuse.

Ashlee

I was on a very packed train when an intoxicated guy comes on and makes his way to the back. He begins verbally harassing multiple people and unbeknown to the woman in front of him, pretends to shove his hand up her skirt. Smiling/laughing and winking at the college boys near him who start to egg him on, this guy goes to actually grab her ass and people who are much closer than I was watch as he does so with looks of disgust or indifference on their faces – ultimately don’t try and stop him! Just as he was about to grab her I smacked his hand away and said a stern “No” even though I was scared he would begin to hassle me. Luckily he looked utterly frightened (must have been my angry face) and got off on the next stop.