I am studying the law at the university in Münster, Germany. Last week my professor used the word “hinterfotzig” which is a german slang word for “malicious” and includes the word “Fotze” whitch means “cunt” in english. Why is there a curse word for womens genitals when there is none for mens? And why is it still used? I hate that often used curse words like “bitch”, “hoe” or “slut” are are only used towards women. There are no similar curse words for describing a man in a negativ sexualy way. And don’t get me wrong. I just want to point that out, i don’t want there to be more that also include men. How about we just drop them once and for all? It is not ok to use a curse word and particular not that one in a lecture at the university. Especially with most students listening being femal. After this word there where gasps and laughter and i was shocked. His excuse:”Ich bin halt von Bayern” (“I am from Bavaria”). But to be fair, he didn’t used just this one curse word, he let a few others slip, too, then the gasps and laughter and then his excuse. But still, the cunt-word definitly has been the reason for most reactions. I am sure that after this word slipped, he knew that he said something wrong. Still it is not ok, even with most students more stuned than angry. I guess because it was the only time that he used a sexist word to descripe malicious and furthermore never said anything sexist befor i will let it go. If it happens again i will definitly talk to him. All in all that was not the worst thing that happened to me while talking about sexism, but it definitly bothered me last week.
I was in my college psychology class and my one professor liked to try and figure out what would bother his students the most. I purposely kept myself guarded around him. He took different approaches, but the one I remember the most is that I was asking questions about the material, digging pretty deep into the theories, and after I asked a question he let out a low whistle, looked at me, and replied with: “Wow. You’re going to be a downright terrible wife. Asking questions like that? No man in their right mind would ever want to put up with a woman like you.” Everyone laughed. Including me. I used this as a funny anecdote for years, but I now look back and realize that this was a horrifically sexist thing for him to say to me.
During lectures, my Comparative Political Systems professor talks at length about male leaders of different countries, going so far as to list unnecessary personal details about their upbringing and hobbies. The first time he mentioned a woman was last week, more than halfway through the semester. He talked about the wife of one of the political leaders… well, more specifically, he showed a bunch of pictures of her, saying that her clothing demonstrated how that country’s culture is changing. To make matters worse, he kept making comments about how “pretty” she was. I am incredibly frustrated and saddened by this because I generally think that my professor is intelligent and knowledgeable about the material he teaches; however, I’m having trouble reconciling that with this disgusting behavior.
I’m a female full professor at a research university in the United States. Two of my male colleagues routinely act as if they are above our process for determining the agendas for meetings, and hijack them at their pleasure. The process is that our support staff sends out a call for agenda items and then the department chair forms them into an agenda. Despite receiving the agenda in writing, these two choose to ignore it and introduce new items without obtaining the consent of their colleagues. When female faculty members whose items (buried at the bottom of the agenda) complain about the situation, the chair brushes them off and won’t use even the most diplomatic of strategies to make sure that everyone is treated fairly, even when the complaining professors outrank the chair. This strikes me as unconscious sexism. Unsurprisingly, the upper administration uses the same marginalizing scripts as the chair when confronted with various complaints from female faculty from across campus. And they wonder why they can’t remain women faculty!