So (obviously by my name) I work at a pet supply store as the main cashier. I get more hours than any of the other cashiers (all girls of course) so I know a lot of the regular customers. Most of the regulars are halfway decent, but there are definitely more creeps than I’d like. I could write a novel with all of the comments I’ve gotten over the 3 years I’ve been with this company (even working at two different locations). But honestly the worst of all of them is my general manager. Granted, he’s very loud and outspoken with everyone, and he gives everyone nicknames (I have no less than 3), but he pushes my boundaries a lot more than I like. The register area is cubicle sized in a U shape, but he insists on being literally right in my bubble. He overhears me talking to my (female) supervisor about how I thought that last customer was cute (even though I’m happily engaged, don’t judge) and he has to comment that he’s going to tell my fiance or how supposedly I’m having relationship problems or whatever. I also belly dance. When I started picking up my weekly classes again I told him I can’t work Wednesday nights. I didn’t originally care about him knowing so I told him the truth about it. Now I wish I’d said I had a book club or something less… tease worthy. And the greatest part of all of this? He’s 54. Old enough to be my g*****n father. I don’t know if he does it with the other girls, most of whom are underage or just barely 18, but I honestly can’t wait to start my new job. I need to get out of retail.
I work in a small supermarket and have regular customers come in each day who I can have chat with. One of my regulars comes in while im stocking a bottom shelf and I’m on my knees to reach better. Without any sort of greeting or prior interation he walks over and tells me “that’s where I like to see a woman” i just blankly stare back at him and ask what he means (I knew at this point what comment he was trying to make). He said “you know, on their knees” while making that small smile to imply he’s joking. Now I’m used to sexual assault and harassment and have come a long way into being more self confident on what is right and wrong with things like this and try to stand up againt this sort of behaviour as much as I’m comfortable with, however I’m still surprised by his comment as I’ve had many interactions with him and didn’t think he was that kind of guy. So I try to politely say “thats not okay” while trying to match his joking demeanor to make it more light hearted as to not cause offence or a scene while I’m at work. He walked away after that and I still hate that I didn’t have the confidence to just react more seriously to make him aware that his comment isn’t okay. Also there was a young male college working down the same section as me who was also kneeling down to reach the bottom shelf. He unfortunately didn’t hear the incident but when I told him straight after he was creeped out and luckily understood why it was wrong of him. – I have MANY more stories like this from comments being made to actually being touched while at work from both customers and one particular staff member on my shifts.
Was told by a middle aged male customer at work one night that I ‘Look like a person worth listening to’, when I wear my glasses.
A male co-worker found out i was gay when we were both in the break room together. Unsurprisingly he asked what all males as when they find out “How do you have sex?” followed “Why don’t you be a girl?” I was completely confused and responded with “What do you mean?” he looked me straight in the eye and smiled while saying “Why don’t you fuck a guy”…. I was completely shocked because he had always been nice. The next time we were in the break room together he sat next to me, he has a joking kind of personality you see, so no one saw what he did next as inappropriate, He sat next to me, put his arm around my waist and put his hand on my thigh then asked me if i could have his baby…. I had no idea what to do other than play along and take it as a joke even though i felt extremely uncomfortable and violated.
My husband just walked into Hamleys Regent Street to buy some Lego. He asked where to find it and was in return asked ‘Girls’ lego or boys’ lego’. He walked out in disgust.
Went to go purchase a new washer/dryer combo with my boyfriend for our new home. Salesman was very friendly, but when I would ask questions, he would answer them looking at my boyfriend. Never flat out ignored me, just directed the whole purchase process towards my boyfriend. At one point though, he made some comment, directly to my boyfriend, about women and doing laundry, about how we had to have everything perfect and we’re the only ones who know how to do laundry anyway since the man is off at work. He said that, laughing, facing my boyfriend. I was standing right next to him. My boyfriend kind of went silent and then just was like, um, we both do laundry. The salesman shut up. Kicker was, the credit card we were using to buy these appliances? Mine, in my name only. Sheesh.
In a GAME store, I asked for Fallout 4, the cashier guessed I was *AFAB muttered some drivel about women and the Sims and then refused to serve me.