University Student
I am a 19 year old uni student who has always identified as a feminist and I have just had an argument with a potential male partner. However after I stated that I did not like his behavior. he sent me a message stating ‘ BLAME ME how very girlish of you, so typical.’ I than pulled him out for this statement and stated that not all women are the same so dont ever blame my behavior on a sexiest generalization of my sex. I was told that I was adding details, it was just generalizing not sexiest and that I was seeing what I wanted to see and I was starting arguments out of nothing. We have ended as friends but I feel so angry that my point was not taken seriously because he did not understand his comment or understand its implications. All I wanted was a acceptance that It was not an okay thing to say and for him to understand. However even in Uni, if you pull one man up for one comment I am starting arguments out of nothing and I am adding things ! I am not adding. I am explaining the sub text of his message and what it implies. It may not hurt me or be a direct sexiest comment towards me but those generalizations mean I was not taken seriously because I am a women. If I dont call him up, no one will !