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Being the “bitch” at the ball game

I was watching my younger sisters baseball game. Her team is the 16U girls team which is also known as team British Columbia. Since baseball is not generally the most welcoming sport for girls as many people consider it a “boys” sport I was happy to see an entire team of girls all playing ball together. I was also proud to have parents in the crowd supporting the girls and I truly believed that all of the parents were feminists, especially because they all seem to believe that girls should have just as much opportunity in sports as boys. I still believe a lot of the parents feel this way but recently my positive spirits about this community were shifted due to a man in the stands comment on my vocal support towards the girls. Every time the girls start doing well or I feel that they need some encouragement I cheer words such as “let’s go girls you’ve got this”, “let’s show these boys what you can do”, “lets go *insert individual girls name*!” And today in the stands I said quietly to the parents “I really hope the girls beat the boys today, I think they should be beat because I think the girls are the stronger team and they can do it!” A man in the stands (from our own team!) quickly told me to shut up as he was shaking his head and I replied by saying “I’m never going to stop supporting the girls!” He then said “you’re such a little bitch” in a very harsh tone and then proceeded to tell me that no one wants to hear what I have to say. These comments hurt because this was coming from a community that I thought was sort of a safe haven for feminists, a place for women and men to support each other. I told him that by using misogyny to defend his own misogyny will never silence me supporting girls baseball! I then turned to some of the mothers and grandmothers in the stands looking for support but instead heard comments such as “I can’t believe she is bringing this up at a ballgame!” And I was told that my response to the man was wrong and was encouraged once again to stop speaking. During this time the man continued to call me a “bitch”. My mother stepped in telling him to never say that to a woman again. My mother’s support gave me the courage to share my story because I know there are women out there that will support me and share ideologies such as my own. Even if my comments were a little too “out there” I will never apologize for sharing my voice with the world and will never ever be silenced by such hate. Thank you Laura for making this absolutely phenomenal site and allowing me to share my story of being referred to as a “bitch” at the ballgame. I hope this story empowers other young girls to refuse to be silenced by men who don’t want to hear our voice.

Theresa

Hello, I am a young 18 year old girl from Australia and I have a few things to say about everyday sexism that I have experienced. The first thing I think of when referring to this topic is the many times I could be walking down the street with either my sister or by myself to find some cars passing by honking or cat calling out to us. The worst time this had happened was when I was alone waiting for an early morning bus into work and a group of four young man loudly shouted out and called to me and then proceeded to drive quickly in the direction of shop bus station. Luckily they just drove around the parking area and didn’t disturb anymore than that. During school I had found sexism occured when people would perceive my love for biology as a weird thing for a girl, or the time I picked up a grasshopper to place it outside it was seen as a “boyish” thing to do. Another instance I have experienced is both in public and at home where people will actively insult or tease me for having both small breasts and butt; some even saying I have the chest of and butt of a boy. The only other form of sexism I have experienced is in every relationship I have has so far with a male has involved sexist insults and assumptions. Generally the male I have dated were surprised by my independant nature to the point of complaining to me about it or calling it a flaw. There has also been a common belief among them that because I am a girl that likes them sexual intimacy and sending nudes is something I am meant to do and they didn’t always listen to the word “No.” I have also had all my opinions ignored constantly and dismissed as being “over dramatic,” or “maybe she’s on her period,” or “her hormones must be acting up.” I have also had my ex’s parents try and shove the idea of children down my throat even when I may seem uncomfortable as I want to put my energy into my career. Usually when I tell them that they tell me how “different” I am from most girls who would dream of a family and kids from a young age unlike me. (sorry for the long post. As soon as I started to write I realized just how much sexism I have experienced and thought nothing of.)

Ann 13 years old from Greece

Last year was I was in 1st grade of middle school and it was woman’s day. I think we had started chatting in history class about it (the teacher was female) and then a boy (good student, seemed good) said that women are mops( or something like that). I really couldn’t believe that he actually said that. It seemed ( and still seems) so stupid. If this happens in 1st grade of middle then what will happen in my next years of school? I am SO glad this website exists so that it can ( at least a little) prepare me for what’s waiting in the next years to follow. School will start in about a month. This year I will really try ( because I’m an introvert and shy and not very social) to stand up when people are being sexist.

Just a man

Race for Life? Cancer Research UK’s Race for Life is a series of women-only events raising money for research into all 200 types of cancer. WHY IS THIS WOMEN ONLY!!!! I’d like to raise money for Cancer but can’t run alongside my wife and daughters. I’m allowed to hand out drinks from the sidelines apparently. But I can’t actually enter the event and help to prevent cancer, because I’m a man.

Michelle

I am a lawyer hired by a financial services during a time of great legal change. When I discussed up the changes that would have the largest impact on the business, the male leaders all used phrases like “that will shut down the industry”, “we may as well close the doors now”, “we’ll never be able to sell again”. But it was me that was referred to as ‘Henny Penny’ (a reference to the hysterical female farmyard hen who thought the sky was falling in when hit in the head with an acorn).

brooke

A few days ago i was walking through my school hallway when the girl beside me was dress coded for the most outrageous thing. Apparently we are expected to cover our bra strap because god forbid a boy sees it and is reminded of the anatomy of the female body. Girls have boobs people. Anyways, i was disgusted by this but of course i couldn’t say anything so i carried on. Later in the day i walked past by a boy wearing a marlin Monroe shirt, and on the shirt she was wearing gang signs and a red bandanna. This article of clothing was CLEARLY offensive and against dress code (reminding you gang signs were on the shirt and us students arent aloud to wear bandannas) and teacher were greeting the boy and not saying ANYTHING AT ALL. i mean seriously how sexist can we be people?????

Mark

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JayJay

I’ve seen girls get dress coded by female teachers who they then ask a male teacher if their outfit is too sexualizing. This can go from shorts, or shirts that are maybe an inch above the end of their jeans. Even today i was dress coded because my shorts were too short (even though they went passed my fingertips, the rule at my school) because, and I quote this from a teacher, “Boys have enough distractions as it is. They don’t need to see legs too.” Dress codes are sexualizing women and what I’ve noticed is that it’s not even the male students at our school sexualizing women, its the teachers and the staff. I see boys wearing t-shirts that have women in only their underwear and get away with it, but girls get yelled at for wearing spaghetti straps.

SqueakyMax

Hi there, Last year I was on jury service In the first case the Barrister defending one of the two accused was hammering the victims character (the victim was autistic) during this vicious victim blaming rant he said this is a crime where there is a lot of false reporting such as is the case in RAPE – yes that’s right he said RAPE was the crime where there was more false accusations than other crimes. Of course he was also abusing a learning disabled person as well in very unsavoury terms. The Judge said nothing (appeared half asleep) which I found more shocking frankly the entire experience was completely traumatising. Of course with our legal system there is no way to complain or do anything about this appalling, obnoxious sexist git!