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This year I attended a summer programme in preparation for university in this coming September and I stayed in accommodation provided by the institution. Within the first day I was told by some of the other girls that the males had been putting bets on me and speaking about me in a degrading manner. I was a little shocked, however, I did not think about it very much as it has happened to me before. After this, at a party a few nights later, some of the males approached me and asked me extremely personal questions regarding my sexual preferences, referring to me in a sexual manner. I tried to discourage this by stating clearly that I was not interested; when this failed to work, I explained that I had a boyfriend. The fact that I was taken seemed to quell most of it for the rest of the night until I went up to my room after the party. One of the guys followed “jokingly” and sat on my bed for a long period of time, asking me to come over and to “show him a good time”. He also made jokes about a recent sexual assault that happened there on the first night (I will not go into details here but basically a guy was arrested after sexually assaulting three of the girls that I lived with) laughing about how there was going to be another one tonight. I was really scared but I still felt like this was acceptable as the boy I am describing was drunk. As he would not leave, I phoned my boyfriend to let him know about the situation, seeking advice, and he seemed to blame me for having not made it clear that I was not interested in the drunk guy. After this happened, I researched into sexual assaults against students within the university I will be going to and there are several documented and reported cases – that’s not to say that there are not more that go unreported, undocumented, unacknowledged. Morally, I know all of this is wrong and it is not something that I should have to deal with but it seems like this kind of thing only really gets worse, even if you have the confidence to step forward and report it. I never reported that guy because I feel like I would be wrong in doing so and I am not sure why I feel like this.