The Everyday Sexism Project exists to catalogue instances of sexism experienced on a day to day basis. They might be serious or minor, outrageously offensive or so niggling and normalised that you don’t even feel able to protest. Say as much or as little as you like, use your real name or a pseudonym – it’s up to you. By sharing your story you’re showing the world that sexism does exist, it is faced by women everyday and it is a valid problem to discuss.

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Katherine

Always wondering whether men are asking to help me carry things because they genuinely want to help or because they think I cant handle it.

Most recently when some steel decking needed to be moved in my job and someone essentially only picked out the men to do that task despite the fact that I was wearing steel toe shoes. Whilst yes I knew I couldn’t carry the massive bits knew I could carry the smaller but still kind of heavy bits. they just assumed I couldn’t lift any of it.

Zack

A lot of people assume that only Women are victims of sexism, and see me as an entitled white guy. I’m treated like I’m brainless and only want to find a relationship so I can have sex. Believe it or not, some people actually just want a kind partner who appreciates them being around.

Charlie

I think I’ve repressed most of the memories that involve a man dehumanizing me, belittling me, objectifying me… but some memories are imprinted and will not be ignored. Because of those experiences, I have no sexual desire, I am afraid of being alone, I look over my shoulder and I often expect the worse out of people because of what I have been put through. I wasn’t always like this… and although I do not consider myself a victim, or a survivor (I hate seeing it that way), I do wish I could feel light, and heal. I hate how I don’t know what’s wrong or right anymore because it all seems so normal and common.

Kitt

I find it interesting that the men who subject women to their sexist statements and actions would feel if their girlfriend or wife told them every time they encountered it. Oh, never mind, he’d blame her

Elizabeth

My manager frequently uses sexist terms to describe female colleagues, usually older women. Examples of language he has used in recent months: old bag, old cow, old biddy, bitch, harridan, old trout.

I’ve had enough and have decided to speak to our E&D manager about it today.

Alison

I am a registered nurse. For 10 years I worked at a nursing home where this very old fashioned guy worked as an agency support worker. He was the same age as me (40’s) and his attitude to women hadn’t progressed since the 1970’s.
He thought it was ok to talk about sex constantly, comment on the bodies of all the women who worked there and rubbish them if he didn’t find them attractive, ask female staff to say certain swear words to him that he found a turn on, talk about his sex life and which staff he’d like to ‘shag’ etc, etc.
He was a nasty bloke If I challenged him and would make working with him so unpleasant on any day I attempted to do this.
My manager was a woman and she really liked him and kept giving him work, He would work hard for her but not for me and some others he didn’t like or fancy. She turned a blind eye to his behaviour even though I tackled her about this. So many other women who worked there really liked him and thought he was harmless and a lovely bloke but he made my life a missery.
Yesterday I was discussing the Harvey Weinstein case with my exmanager and we discussed this man again. She told me that she now realises she was wrong for allowing him to behave like that and not challenging him.

Emma

I am 7 and a half months pregnant and usually work from home. I went into the office for some meetings where a male colleague was asking me about how the pregnancy was going, did we know the sex, how difficult it was for him and his wife etc. Then the conversation turned by him saying “the one thing is after the birth you will swell up and be engorged (him making large breast hand movements with large eyes) and your husband will be like wow and will be all happy and want to touch. But you will be like ‘get off me ‘ and slapping his hands away (he laughs)”
I just said “that’s not what they are for’ did not laugh and walked off. I told women in three office and his boss who just laughed it off and said it wasn’t appropriate. No further Acton.

Erika

I sat in a coffee shop to get away for a bit as I had issues going on at home. I got my notebook out and started writing, I managed to write over fifteen pages on sexism on that day alone. My pen ran out so I went to two different coffee shops. Both times being stared at by the men sitting near or opposite me.

Mary

My husband used to be a trainer in local government and he used to do joint training with the a trainer from the health service from time to time.
Much later I found out that they used to have a game when they ran courses together where they would mark the female participants on the course out of 10 for their physical attractiveness.
I was outraged that my husband could have gone along with this even if it wasn’t his idea.