Male Friends

mad, overprotective, younger sister

Men, even the self proclaimed ‘woke’ ones, who don’t understand that when someone has told you they’re not interested, you should stop with all the advances. My family’s been friends with this guy through my brother for like 4 years now. We’re increasingly becoming done with him. Major reason why? His inability to keep it platonic with my sister. They already talked about his one-sided feelings and agreed to remain friends. And yet he keeps doing really awkward stuff that irritates and embarrasses my sister. Worst of all he’s frequently stated how emotionally dependent he is on my sister, and that their ‘friendship’ has helped him through his mental illness. From that alone you might think, all he’s done is thank her. Well no. He’s said ‘he’d be depressed without her’ with puts responsiblity on my sister for his health, and holds her accountable if she wants to end the friendship that he has made so stressful and infuriating. He’s had the gall in a club to grab my sister’s hand, and said her leaving his sight triggers his anxiety. She justly left him alone in the corner of the club while she danced with her friends. He comes over every family event and then proceeds to stay the whole weekend even once everyone else has left. My sister hates this, because he doesn’t deserve all her time. Not even a husband should be attached to the hip of his partner. He’s just being a creep now, not respecting boundaries. And this is a dude who acts all woke about social injustice, and yet he’s been very sexist to my sister with his behaviour. Leave women alone, if you can’t keep your dick in your pants, do her a favour and remove yourself from her life


I was in a vehicle with my husband and some of “our” friends, all of whom are male, they all got out and then one turned to the rest of them and said “lets leave her in the van, we’ll call her when we want breakfast in the morning!”


Yesterday one of my closest male friends and I were reading a feminist magazine and he actually started explaining the concepts to me. I knew the concepts, and though I might not be as well read as he on feminist literature and philosophy, I acutely experience these things every day. I just really took issue with it. Later, this same friend made an offhand comment about how unfortunate it is that ugly women never get taken seriously in society (after explaining how he made out with a very problematic person because she was hot). I’m not the best looking woman, and I have dealt with that, so it stung. I’ve felt bad since.


About a year ago I went to see my favourite band in concert. I had a great time, I was dancing and singing along to all of my favourite songs! I always dance with small movements, as I don’t really like drawing attention to me or my chest. For the final song the band asked everyone in the audience to put their hands in the air and go crazy. So I did, I danced wildly with my arms up in the air. Suddenly, I feel a hand cupping my breast. It was a very crowded concert and I couldn’t see who did it. He ruined the concert for me, I had loved every minute of it until that jerk decided he was entitled to touch my boob, without me wanting him to. When I told 2 of my male friends about the incident I used the words: “I just don’t know why they would do this to me.” Meaning it like why would anyone do this to someone else without consent. One of them replied “Oh I see why they would do that to YOU.” Obviously insinuating that he thinks that my breasts looked good. The other one just nodded. This really pissed me off and also made me feel like my opinion didn’t matter. It was belittling and I was shocked that my friends would think that way.