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Aimée

I’m only sixteen years old and I experienced more sexism I am probably even aware of. It started at a young age. When I would go out wearing short pants, my mother would tell me to change and I would get so angry and confused about it, because why should I change my pants, if I want to wear them? My parents told me and taught me things like that all my life. My twin brother is allowed to come home from a night out whenever he wants, my limit is 2am if I’m in our town and 12am if I’m in the city nearby. I get so angry about it, although I know they want to protect me and I also don’t want to get in a dangerous situation, but it is just so wrong, that this is normal and we just have to live with it! When I fought with my parents about all that and got angry, my father once told me that I was being childish. The worst part is, that I believed him and really thought that I am not allowed to get angry about that stuff, because that’s how the world is and I can’t change it anyways… In 6th grade a classmate wanted to pay me to touch my butt. In 7th grade I got touched at my boob from another classmate. For three years straight, I had to hear everyday verbal harassment, so-called “jokes”, with things like “can I eat your burger?” (which was a patch on the back of my jeans) or “your boobs got bigger over the holidays” or “can you describe your pussy?”. I was sent dick pics, was asked for nudes, was touched at my butt when I was in a club, got followed or stared at by men, so that I had to run away and all that with the age of twelve until sixteen. And at that time, I wasn’t even aware of, how all this stuff was actual sexual assault. All these things made me think that I’m worthless and my self-confidence got beat down by every comment or look or whatever and I am still struggling with building it up again. When I have a problem with something and find something sexist, I’m afraid to speak up, because when I do, I’m being told to “not being so dramatic and sensitive and make everything about feminism”. I hate being afraid of speaking up and using my voice, walking alone at night at a street and feel this fear of getting assaulted by every man I see. I hate thinking about things like “should I buy a pepper spray” or “should I really be wearing this?” and changing and adapting MY life and behaviour, when it should be the people who cause me to think this stuff. It makes me furious and helpless and sad and I just want to do something about it, but the world we live in is just so unfair! If we speak up and fight against it, we are going to be made a target for sexism even more, because so many people think of the word “feminism” as something bad or ridiculous and “just a bunch of hysterical women who hate all men” or we’re simply a slut for embracing our femininity and swimming against the stream. People criticize everything and sometimes I feel like, there is nothing a woman can do right. I am so sad and scared, that my little sister, my mother, my future daughter, my friends, probably every woman in this world are going through this or will go through this and worse. If you read this, I just want to remind you that whatever you went through, is horrible but it doesn’t define you and it’s not your fault! Your voice is important and you are a powerful, amazing, intelligent, beautiful, beloved human being! You matter <3

Eva

While looking at reviews online for a lamp. ‘so simple even the misses could set it up’ one reviewer wrote.

Exposed

So, I have an account on a website that I’ve been on since I was 14 (I’m now almost 20). Once I got comfortable with my subs, I started to do face reveals but stopped after a couple of selfies as I always got lewd comments, despite the photos only ever showing my face and me always being fully clothed in them. I was added to two group chats on this app about two weeks ago and since day one, I’ve had issues with them. Stuff like multiple members constantly “joking” about raping me and calling me “whore” and “slut” because I didn’t go along with their “jokes”. Now, I met this guy on the chats who actually seemed decent and he messaged he, so we started talking. We exchanged selfies but then I told him i had a bf so it didn’t go further. However, yesterday we had a major disagreement over LGBT culture and I ended up blocking him. I woke up this morning to a message from another guy on the chat, saying that this guy had sent my selfie to both chats. This made me have a panic attack. I have paranoia and mild anxiety and I told him that the reason why I didn’t post the selfie on the chats was because I was afraid that someone would reverse google search it, would find my actual social medias and would ruin my life (I know, insane, but I wouldn’t put it past some of the guys on the chats). To make matters worse, one of the guys who I’ve had an issue with from day one actually posted my selfie on his account, with my username and asked people to call me a stupid whore. Naturally I freaked out about this and so messaged the guy who sent the photo, asking why he’d done it. He genuinely didn’t see the issue with posting it, especially as it wasn’t a nude, and didn’t see why it was a completely out of proportion response for someone disagreeing with him. He made up bullshit excuses like because he didn’t know I had mental issues and therefore didn’t know that I’d have a panic attack that he wasn’t to blame and other shit like that. I ended up blocking him again because he admitted that his apology was only out of courtesy and it felt like hitting my head against a brick wall trying to get him to understand why what he did was wrong and why I was upset. There is nothing more I can do at this point but I’m just so upset, especially with the guy who posted the selfie on his account. Given that I didn’t want my face to be shown, I feel like that picture was just as private as my nudes would have been and so I feel completely betrayed. Not only do I feel like this wouldn’t have happened if I was a man, but it’s also opened me up to even more lewd comments about rape and how I’m “such a slut. Just not a great way to start my morning. God, I hate guys.

Elizabeth

I had to watch you TED talk for my Soc class. I felt inclined to tell my story. I’m 19 years old and live in the US. As a child I was molested by my stepsister and my grandfather, however was never able to tell my story because I was 11 and felt no one would believe me. Around 12 years old groups of boys used to chase the girls around because it was “slap ass Tuesday” and the girls would laugh because it was “normal.” but scared me, especially because they where so much older than us at the time. Every day I hear cruel and vile “jokes” about women and see the over-sexualization of women and when I tell people its offensive I’m “too sensitive.”

Adriana

I have seen a post on Instagram showing an advert for kids’ t-shirts. the blue one, obviously for the boys said: “I am going to be an astronaut”. The pink one, worn by a blonde girl, said: “I’m a girl, I can only do math when I am shopping”. It made me so angry because I like math, and I know so many girls who would be good at it if they weren’t told that science is for boys!

Kat (15)

Ok so first of all, I’m trans (amab) and genderfluid. This isn’t a specific event but rather a summary of most sexism I face. The first is online DMs, I haven’t been sent any dick pic yet but some form of sexual harrasment (usually from someone much older) is common. I’ve had people ask which genitals I find most attractive, I’ve had people ask to be my sugar daddy I’ve had people tell me how pretty I look with my hair tied back. At school people have told me I’m not girly enough and that I’m too girly. People have told me I can’t be a girl because I’m a lesbian. People think that no one is sexist against trans people but my experience and the experiences of a lot of people on this website prove them wrong

Stereotypes

I went to Kmart with my mum to get my little sisters (turning 8) presents. She wanted a nerf gun and a special transformer toy. We went straight to the toy section. I was disgusted when I saw that all the cool guns (green, blue, orange) has images of boys playing with them on the front. Then there was one, bow and arrow (pink and purple) advertised with a girl. Idk I’m probably overreacting me but it’s been bugging me. These stereotypes are ingrained into us from such young ages. Next time you go shopping make an effort to notice it.

Jacob Anderson-Minshall

my family abuse me constantlt because im openly gay. my moher is sickened by me as she says she’ll never have grandkids now but every time i bring up adoption she says shed never let some ibred mongorel child ruin the pure family line. my aunt was so homopobic that she continues to tourment me. i hate ,en thety say i am woman i am not woman. stupid white men

Katie

Over a year ago now I was dating this boy. I was 14 and it was my first proper relationship or what I thought one of those was. One night at a party we were getting more intimate. I wasn’t sure what he wanted so I let him take off my bra and touch me where he wanted. This was my first time doing anything like this so I didn’t really know what to do and I actually didn’t feel that uncomfortable. A few days later we were saying goodbye after school outside the gates. It was full of students and teachers on duty and he grabbed my bum as I turned around to walk away. I felt shocked and uncomfortable but I ignored it. He did it multiple times after that including in a crowded school corridor and in front of all my friends. Ever since then I haven’t been able to get close with any other boy. I get anxious and nauseas and overly self conscious. I feel like the only asset I have that they would be interested in is my body. I’m angry that he did that to me and how it’s affected me.