I was once talking to friend of mine on Snap chat. He asked if he could see a picture of me smiling since I was upset about a family matters. When I sent the picture he replied with “you have very nice cleavage. I’d love to see what’s underneath that top”. At the time I didn’t really think much of it. I had heard of many girls in my school being commented on about there appearance and whether they were sexy or not. Now looking back I realize the comment he made wasn’t okay or wasn’t acceptable or normal. So now whenever a guy asks me for any nude photos I simply say “How would you feel if your mum or sister or aunt or cousin was asked the same? Do you think it would be right for them to send nudes? Do you think it would be right for them to be harassed for photos?” and this makes them think twice about it. I’m really pleased that I can tell my story and reading everybody else stories has inspired me to speak up about every day sexism and to tell women that its not okay to be objectified. Thank you for reading my story.
I was sitting in my Spanish class at school, we were made to use the computer during this lesson and we were told to use a languages website called ‘Languages Online’. I soon stumbled across a vocabulary activity about members of the family. One specific activity was about jobs mother and fathers have. They were two separate activities and both have examples of jobs that a mother or father might have. Examples of a fathers job were ‘farmer, policeman, doctor, fireman… etc’. Examples of a mothers job were ‘nurse, hairdresser, secretary, receptionist, primary school teacher’ and the list goes on. But wait, I’m saving the best for last… UNEMPLOYED. According to this website, only women can be unemployed and let’s still not forget, women also can’t become fire fighters or doctors, only hairdressers or secretary’s. Wtf
First of all, look out for those inherently/ subconsciously sexist people, who proclaim vigorously that rape culture does not exist, despite there being an environment where women are objectified and have their traumatic experiences viewed with indifference. Secondly, don’t worry; sexists will be punished due to karma under God, no matter what the Bible states. God is fair toward everyone and there will be justice. Moreover, always speak up whenever you receive any sort of sexist remark; don’t let it normalize any further, and please try to re-educate those who are sexist.
Girls are told what to wear when to wear it and everyone’s option on it, log I want to wear a short skirt or just shorts I can see the eyes on me not even all of them are boys my age (I’m 14) some are older some are younger and it’s very uncomfortable when they fell they need to comment on me and friends body they like they can just comment on the size of out breast or bums or how we’re wearing a slutty outfit it’s just 😐
2 things: Aged 15 I was at a historical lecture day with my school. We went to a talk about 1915 in the First World War and the lecturer was an ex-military author, specialising in the War. He started by asking the question why the picture he had put on the screen was not taken in 1915 – the obvious (to me) answer being that the british soldiers were wearing helmets (which weren’t issued until 1916). A boy on the other side of the room put his hand up but said the wrong answer so I put my hand up to answer. The ex-military lecturer looked straight at me and said in the most patronising tone possible: “A girl! Well this is knew… I’ve never had a girl think she knows the answer before!” Even though I was young I did appreciate his tone and the remark but was too scared to challenge him – my best solution was to answer his question correctly and prove his misogynistic attitude wrong. Afterwards friends and teachers told me how shocked they were at the statement, probably as I go to an academic girls school where girls often know the answers. Looking back I wish I’d challenged him or walked out, but my fear of getting into trouble at school shut me up. Secondly, walking home from work one day aged 16, I was wearing business suit trousers and a blouse. A man leaned out of his car window and shouted as he drove past that a “girl like me should be wearing a skirt.” It didn’t truly hit until a few days later what had happened. I’ve never told anyone about this incident.
I am cat called in class, at school, in shopping areas, the streets and well everywhere. however the same boys who are cat calling me are also cat calling me on social media and asking for pictures and when I say no the say that it was all a joke and that i am flat assed and chested or they say i am an attention seeking slut but the next day the cat call me and ‘bump’ into my ass and slap it at times . it does not only make me feel uncomfortable but a bit unsafe.
I was sexually assaulted at 10 years old by an older boy who “befriended” me at school. I was too afraid to tell my mom, as I didn’t want to add stress to her life. 7 years later, I still deal with panic attacks and anxiety, and have no idea how to get better.
A friend of my boyfriend had to give him a complement in the yearbook. “T. is a great cyclist, he takes the wheel like no one else and he takes Ellen from behind. He is a very good guy because we haven’t seen him French kissing with Ellen yet. Guess I’m a bike now
I’ma boy on a school trip, and I have to stay in a room with 2 other boys, even though almost all the other boys in my school are jerks, but, okay, fine, these two seem semi-okay to me. Then they start talking about how one of them has a crush on a girl in our school group. Seems fine at first. I don’t recognise her name and ask him what about her personality he likes. He then says he’s never actually talked to her, he just thinks she’s hot. But wait, it gets worse. The two joke about the one guy having sex with her numerous times, even calling her a cuck whore. We’re all 13-14, in 8th grade. The next day, I sit down with one of my friends, who sits next to her two other friends. As we talk, I learn one of those girls is in fact the same girl my roommate talked about. Also, she’s the farthest from a “cuck whore” one could be, even being creeped out when she saw some other girls getting ogled just yesterday. The boys just assumed she was a “cuck whore” because of the shorts she wore. They disgust me.
On a school trip. The chaperones are five teachers and one former teacher, the leader of the group’s wife. They always separate everything by gender: Whose bags go in which bus, who gets to EAT FOOD first, etc. So, we’re preparing for a hot day, so we need to put waters on the bus. The ex-teacher comes over and says “gentleman, I need you to pur waters on the bus.” I was shocked. Then, later, the group leader told us to “man up”. Ugh.