University

Morgan

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I’m a chemical engineering student and we often have labs throughout the years. Every time I’ve had a male lab partner it’s been the most awful experience where they never listen and completely disregard what I have to say. If they mess up, it’s funny, if I mess up, hell rains down. I hate to get so bitter, but I really have been becoming colder, putting on a more mean front the further I get into engineering. It’s such a cliche, and I thought I would never let this happen to me, but here we are

J

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Lecturer at University told a room of 200 students that he had stalked his dissertation supervisor but “it’s OK because she’s hot”

Anon

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A couple of years ago I was in a pub with some friends and an older man came up to me and said I was so pretty that he would be surprised if I had never been raped before. When I told my boyfriend at the time what this person said to me he agreed and told me I should take the comment as a compliment.

Liam

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At a uni meet and greet, I talked with a male academic that I knew and a female academic I didn’t know. I asked the woman if she was the man’s student. She said she’s a new lecturer. I realised that I’d just invalidated her achievements and I sincerely apologised, but she said it happens all the time so it was fine. I’m so angry at myself that I can still make such a mistake, and that this kind of thing is common!

A

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im a student studying philosophy, ive been studying it for years and specifically study feminist theorys independantly, i made a point in a class once and did not get listened to, my male class mate made the same point as me and got congradulated

parker

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a boy i went to middle school with has been harassing me for nude photos for the past year and when i didn’t provide them, he said he hopes i get raped at my college. i thought he was done but he just tried to follow me on social media again. i’m so tired of feeling afraid when i go back to our hometown for breaks that i’ll see him and something will happen to me. i’m currently reading “men who hate women” and it is becoming clearer to me that he is one of those men.

BFS

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I was at uni with one of my housemates who I considered a good friend at the time and one day out of nowhere he playfully wacked me on the bum with a tea towel but then continuously would do it with his foot. At first I didn’t know what to make of it and confronted it with him and he said it wasn’t’ deep and just not to mention it to my boyfriend. When I did tell by my boyfriend he made me realise it was assault it was sexual assault. Then on nights out he’d get drunk and actually smack my bum and once tried to kiss me and a friend (on a seperate occasion). Whenever I tried to bring it up he said he didn’t remember it and because he was ‘normal’ most of the time I found it so hard to deal with and my friends couldn’t understand how I could differentiate between it or deal with it as we were friends.

Mari-Anne

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I started a professional training course in 2021. There was a slide on dress code. The trainers knew better than to be explicit about the length of women’s skirts but that was still the message. There was a picture of a woman in a mid thigh dress. No comment was made about it but it was clearly included as a not ok example. I bought a load of fishnet tights to wear to work. With skirts. That are mid thigh. Because women’s clothes are not the problem.

H

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After two years in a PhD program in a science field, it was time for my doctoral exams, in which you have to stand in front of your thesis committee and answer any question that they throw at you in order to progress. It is a big deal. I was working in my chosen specialty, and my advisor was a young superstar in the field. My (male) partner was a new professor in another department, and coincidentally had gotten his job after I was accepted into my program. So the day of the PhD exam, I’m standing in front of my (all male) committee after having studied for months, and my (male) advisor ‘introduces’ me (even though I knew all of them well) with “H came here to study for a PhD because her partner got a job here.” I was so shocked I couldn’t speak. Couldn’t answer a single question. Just stunned. And nobody in that room thought twice about it. After a few stuttered attempts to answer their questions, they cancelled the exam. I did finally earn my PhD, after having to move away and block out of my mind all of the other sexist shite that my advisor said to me over the years. When asked, all the other (entirely male) faculty would say about him was “oh, he has issues with women.”

XX

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I used to work in a bar as a waitress. One time while I was working someone touched my ass. At the University we had an old proferos who was telling very sexist ‘jokes’.