I’m in a mostly male dominated degree and every time I go to class I feel as though I have to work twice as hard as the boys just to be “good enough”. I continuously get pushed out of the hands on activities because “i’m a girl and i don’t really understand what we’re doing”
I present as more effeminate than most and was called gay throughout school and university. Now wanting to explore my sexuality, I’m unsure whether the desire is my own or it’s because of the comments. I hate that it’s like this
I’m so tired of walking down the street and being cat called or having men follow me shouting things after me. I’m tired of having to fight harder than my husband when I walk the dogs alone because if he has reactive dogs he’s trying his best but I’m just a bad dog owner. I’m tired of men bullying their way through life and being allowed to get away with it. I’m tired of feeling unsafe walking home at night. I’m tired of feeling unsafe walking alone during the day if I don’t have a dog or my husband with me. I’m tired of being treated differently when my husband is there versus when he’s not. I’m tired of men directing their technical information to my husband like my brain is too small to comprehend it. I’m tired of having to make myself smaller so I’m more palatable. I’m tired of always having to push to be treated in even the same ballpark as men. I’m tired of all the micro aggressions I experience on a daily basis that I don’t even register anymore. I’m tired of having to pitch against agencies run by men who are worse at what they do but get more work because they’re men. I’m tired of just fucking existing in a society that wants me to shut up and put up.
I’m quite fond of talking about my interests wether I be litriture, poetry, certain thing that are going on in the word ect. Despite the fact before discussing stuff I do like to fact cheak and make sure my information is correct I’m always told that I dont know what im on about and spoken down to in a way by my uncle and primarly other men in my life. For example when I’m discussing politics ect my uncle will always insist speak to me in a way that puts me bellow him. I can’t describe it but it’s like the tone or the words he uses and then he insists im wrong no matter what it is only to later say my exact point back to me. Its infuriating. This happens with male friends and male colleagues too. But when I mention it i get told im just a crazy feminist who’s picking reasons to be annoyed.
I’m a chemical engineering student and we often have labs throughout the years. Every time I’ve had a male lab partner it’s been the most awful experience where they never listen and completely disregard what I have to say. If they mess up, it’s funny, if I mess up, hell rains down. I hate to get so bitter, but I really have been becoming colder, putting on a more mean front the further I get into engineering. It’s such a cliche, and I thought I would never let this happen to me, but here we are
Lecturer at University told a room of 200 students that he had stalked his dissertation supervisor but “it’s OK because she’s hot”
A couple of years ago I was in a pub with some friends and an older man came up to me and said I was so pretty that he would be surprised if I had never been raped before. When I told my boyfriend at the time what this person said to me he agreed and told me I should take the comment as a compliment.
At a uni meet and greet, I talked with a male academic that I knew and a female academic I didn’t know. I asked the woman if she was the man’s student. She said she’s a new lecturer. I realised that I’d just invalidated her achievements and I sincerely apologised, but she said it happens all the time so it was fine. I’m so angry at myself that I can still make such a mistake, and that this kind of thing is common!
im a student studying philosophy, ive been studying it for years and specifically study feminist theorys independantly, i made a point in a class once and did not get listened to, my male class mate made the same point as me and got congradulated
a boy i went to middle school with has been harassing me for nude photos for the past year and when i didn’t provide them, he said he hopes i get raped at my college. i thought he was done but he just tried to follow me on social media again. i’m so tired of feeling afraid when i go back to our hometown for breaks that i’ll see him and something will happen to me. i’m currently reading “men who hate women” and it is becoming clearer to me that he is one of those men.