Just a few weeks ago I was chatting with my bandmates (all 20 year old guys) while rehearsing some music. My drummer, talking about some new girls, said: “They have such a rapable ass”. This is after I’ve heard him saying stuff like “if men could give themselves blowjobs there would be no need for women”, and the classic “women can’t drive” or “women have emotions, they don’t understand logic”. When he wants to mock me he calls me “bionda”, which in Italian is the female form for “blonde”. I’ve tried to talk to him about all of this; he called me a “pussy” and asked if I was actually being serious. To cut the long story short, I’m looking for a new drummer.