In collage I allowed a boyfriend to film me giving him a blowjob. He did not convince me, it was a ten second video that I enjoyed as much as him. Drunk at a party he showed it to a male friend I didn’t know. Later, when I was tipsy but not drunk and vulnerable from spraining my ankle from walking on gravel he made his move. Pulling me to him and trying to put his hand up my dress as I struggled and told him no. He responded that my boyfriend had said it was ok. I don’t believe he said that and it didn’t matter as I was saying no. My boyfriend was very drunk and a half passed out on the grass 15ft away but when I called out to him whined at the noise and covered his ears. He assumed I was just drunkenly being loud. I realised he would not save me so did what I had always been advised and screamed bloody murder. I took another breath to yell fire when a group of equally tipsy girls came outside to see why I was screaming in real terror. The man immediately released his hold and I spend the rest of the night never with less than 2 girls in arms reach. I never really discussed with my then boyfriend as he was drunk so I believed ‘not his fault. I was 18. I’m 33 now owns for all I know he still has the video.
We lost contact after I refused to continue sleeping with him after we broke up. Suddenly he had no interest in friendship if he was unable to coerce me into sex.