I’m tired of my husband referring to our daughter’s affairs as my stuff rather than ours or even hers. From before her birth when things we had to buy for her were “your shopping” to the present day when he got angry because I asked him to arrange registration at our dental surgery for her, since you have to go in person to take ID documents and he was going there anyway. He asked why I didn’t go myself, even though he was going for his own appointment and it would have taken me an extra half hour to get there. When he eventually agreed, he asked me “where are your documents then?” and when I gently corrected him saying “[Daughter]’s documents” as I went to get them, he yelled at me that he didn’t have time to “argue about semantics.”
Why is it still so often assumed that women are solely responsible for childcare? Both my husband and I work full time, yet I’m the one who has to bathe our daughter and get her ready for bed every day, prepare all her meals that require any sort of cooking and arrange any healthcare appointments she needs (once he’d registered her at the dentist, my husband texted me to say “now you just need to make an appointment” while he was right there at reception!) People make a big deal of me leaving her with her father about once a fortnight so I can have a few hours to myself, while my husband is never questioned about leaving our daughter in my care.