I am working hard in raising my boys to be feminists. My six year old is so proud of his colorfull clothes (boys clothes in Sweden are mostley black or navy blue, so I make an effort go find “happier” clothes) and the fact his best friend thinks he looks like a girl. (Not clothes but his face/body, the friend is a girl if it matters for the story)
It breaks my heart that he one day might take “looking like a girl” as an insult. Already his friends opinions about what girls are like and boys are like, weighs more then mums “girls and boys are the same but people are different”-attitude.
I’m afraid that I can’t impact them enough and I will loose respect for them as adults.