When I was 14 I was traveling down on the train with a friend to visit my dad in London. When I arrived he was shocked that we hadn’t received “unwanted attention”, as we were wearing shorts and t shirts, and he considered out shorts to be too short. I felt very embarrassed as I hadn’t even considered the possibility of being sexualized, but it seemed as though that’s how he viewed it or else why would he have said it? Since then he has asked and made sure I plan to wear clothing that offers more coverage for journeys, as though it’s my responsibility to avoid harassment. He also, when discussing other women he sees wearing shorts whom he finds provocative, mentions the incident again, saying they are similar to the ones I wore on the train journey, where I was lucky to have made it the whole way without any trouble. It makes me feel disgusted he talks about other women this way, and also disgusted that he compares them to myself at 14
