Bethany

I was out with a girlfriend in Newcastle (Uk). We had been to a comedy show and decided to go somewhere to dance afterwards. I was driving so wasn’t drinking . We went into a venue with live music and were enjoying dancing together. We are two heterosexual single women but we were just enjoying our girls night. Two men came over to dance with us and ignored repeated attempts by both of us to move away. One eventually gave up but the other kept sidling closer to each of us. We ignored him and eventually left to dance near a sh in another room. We met a group of lads on a night out together. We were dancing near and with them and everything’s was friendly. I sat down as I was hot and three of the men made a joke of fanning me while I sat there. I laughed at the joke … and suddenly one of them jumped into my lap straddling me , another jumped onto the arm ignored the chair at my shoulder. I felt uncomfortable but tried to be polite and pushed them off with a laugh. One then again jumped onto my lap and took several shoves to get him off. One of he guys obviously didn’t approve and sat shaking his head, the rest laughed at the joke … I went outside as was feeling very uncomfortable by this point. I didn’t want to leave my friend so once I’d cooled off and my heart rate had settled down I went back in. I realised my phone battery was low and with a sick child at home I wanted to get back to my car before it died so told my friend I wouldn’t be going soon and could I give her a lift. We decided to dance to one more song before we went. I got up to go to the dance floor and she started talking to one of the group of boys. I waited beside the dance floor for her but another of the guys grabbed my arm to pull me over to dance. I pulled my arm back and told him I was waiting for my friend. He again pulled me, I repeated myself. He then grabbed both my wrists and pulled me over to dance, despite me trying to pull my arms back he resisted until I pulled hard and pushed him off. I left the club to the bemusement of my friend who hadn’t seen this and ended up in tears outside. I’m sure these were “nice guys” who feel they don’t do anything to contribute to tape culture and ongoing sexism…