I was at a college party and got really drunk , past the point where I was making decisions I would make sober. There was a guy there that I was friends with that had always thought I was attractive but I don’t think he’s attractive. I remember telling him that even though I wasn’t officially seeing one of his friends anymore we still were trying to do things not to hurt each other so I wouldn’t be kissing anyone from his fraternity. I remember saying this. I remember him kissing me and me lightly pushing him away. I found out the next day that my friends had seen this happen and been really concerned for me because right after the kids apparently I fell over and was stumbling around. I don’t remember that part well. The next day I felt really weird and was questioning if I was allowed to feel that way. The guy who I used to date acted completely horrible to me afterwards. Telling me how I had betrayed him by getting with his friend. That I was a piece of shit and a terrible person. That I was a drunk with no self control, and how it was all my fault. It was only after he visibly saw me freak out in this presence of this guy a couple times that he started questioning whether I was actually more the victim in this situation (I AM BTW). The guy actually messaged me the next day apologizing if he had done anything to make me feel uncomfortable. I told him (rather bravely I think, because I could have easily just said “no all good” ) that actually yeah I felt really uncomfortable and i wasn’t in a state to give consent and I wasn’t happy with what he had done. But that I accepted his apology and his immediate acknowledgement of what happened rather than a denial meant so much to me. He apologized the next 3 times he saw me and his persistence was enough for me. I wholeheartedly forgive him. I don’t forgive my ex for blaming me for being sexually assaulted. He will never see the situation differently and I will never forget his reaction
