My dad and I were heading north from a relative’s house and were stopping to stay the night at a friends house. They had a family of 4, dad, mom, and 2 sons. I was watching a movie with the younger son who is a year older than me (i’m 13 but going to be a freshman). We’re sitting on separate coaches but the dad walks in. He starts touching me in ways I’m not exactly comfortable with but that don’t scream sexual assault or anything. Keep in mind I’m not at all close with this man, I just meet him every once in a while since I was a child. He touches my thigh, and pulls my head down to kiss the top of it, lastly he holds my hand. My hand is all sweaty because I want to pull away but he’s seems a bit confrontational and I’m just not. I try to softly pull my hand away but he just grips harder, so I rip it away. (I forget the order here) My dad has just come into the room and tells him to stop and that he’s making me uncomfortable. He starts complaining that I ripped my hand away but I was cuddling my dad last night (I’ll tell about this later). During all of this his son has just been looking at the screen and said one thing telling his dad to stop but not in a real stop kind of way. I honestly felt uncomfortable with the way dad said that I was uncomfortable, the blame should’ve been put on that man because of the way he was touching me, not on me because I was weirded out.
Previously this man (on the same trip but when we were going south and stopped again) had told me to put my leg down because women shouldn’t spread their legs. He had also walked into the room my dad and I were sleeping in (no knocking) and made some comment about a daughter hugging her dad. He talks in Malayalam (my mother tongue but I don’t know it), so all his comments mostly fly over my head but doesn’t switch the language even though I’ve told him multiple times I don’t understand.
I later learned that he is turning into an alcoholic and he was most likely pretty drunk during this. This doesn’t in any way excuse the way he acted, it was the first time I felt attacked by weird comments from men. This was a man I had known almost my entire life and the other people in the room ignored it. I honestly would understand for the younger son because I would also feel uncomfortable calling out my own dad. Before when he made the leg comment (sons weren’t in the room), after the older one came down he asked me if my dad had said anything ‘weird’. This wasn’t a irregular things and I’m going to have to see him tomorrow because he’s coming north. I have another female friend with me though, hopefully he’s not drunk this time.