A close family friend always makes little jokes about my mum’s breasts and compares them to his wife’s. It’s happened for years and I saw it as so normal. He would throw small things down my mum’s cleavage and it was always the running “joke”. At about 15 he started doing it to me, too. It was irritating but I guess I kind of found it funny, too. Nobody saw a problem with it. Years later I can see it for what it was and how it was so normalised that nobody cared. But that’s a really difficult thing to explain to family to get them to understand why it’s wrong and why it’s damaging.
