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Me and my ex boyfriend used to date on and off, with him splitting up with me when he found someone else or when I felt brave enough to break things off. I’m on the asexual spectrum and my boyfriend was really supportive and accepting of it at first. We’d laid down boundaries and things that made me uncomfortable. However, after a couple of weeks I noticed that he’d start to break these boundaries. For example, I told him that him talking about all the sexual fantasies he had about us made me really uncomfortable but he’d still tell them me. Everytime I told him it made me uncomfortable, he’d apologise and say he didn’t realise but would do it again a couple days later. The one time I had the courage (I wouldn’t call it courage but idk what else to call it) to break things off with him, he got really annoyed at me and wouldn’t talk to me for months. However, after a couple of months he came back into my life and we started dating again. Like usual he started with the comments again and then he started asking for nudes. Luckily I was scared to send any because I knew my parents sometimes checked my phone and I’m so thankful that I never did. After our most recent falling out, we stayed friends and after a year, I began another relationship with someone else. Thankfully he hasn’t said anything weird about it but I know he’s jealous and ever since finding out about my relationship he’s been messaging me nonstop (we hadn’t talked for a few weeks but now he’s messaging me several times a day). A part of me feels like I was really lucky that nothing serious happened between us two because it was easier cutting ties with him knowing he had nothing on me. I still feel bad about everything that happened and I also feel really bad for posting it on here as I don’t feel like my story is as bad as a lot of other people’s stories. But, I feel like by telling people what happened, hopefully somebody else will read this and know that if your partner is making you feel uncomfortable, it’s best to cut them out of your life because I wish I knew that a lot earlier