I had an ex in my home one day… an ex of 8 years. He got drunk in the middle of the afternoon. He was getting aggressive so I told him to leave. I recorded it on my phone. For the next 2 hours, he sent me obscene texts, shouted at my doors and pryed open my window. After a while he asked for a phone charger to call for a ride, so I opened the front door and tried to hand it to him. He slammed the door on me many times. He spit in my eyes, and I just..I threw a punch. Closed fist, at his eye. Just enough to make it visible I guess. I threatened to call the police. He continued to pull open my windows and call me the N word. I am a blonde 5’2 white woman, just to give you context. I took a shower to drown out the sound. When I turned off the shower he was still outside shouting. I called the police.
Im beginning to have PTSD so ill finish it by telling you that they arrested me, did not include any of the details, called it domestic battery because he said he lived at my house (he hadn’t been over in weeks) But they took me in, refused to give me any of my medication (I Have ehlers-danlos syndrome and take anticonvulsants; i also had strep, just confirmed 2 days prior because i USED to be a vpk teacher- they wouldnt give me my antibitotic)anyway. 3months 5000 dollars and much much therapy later they dismissed the case.
the police gave false testimony. i read the report.
it was a woman who arrested me. as she put me in the car i said “I thought we were supposed to stick together”> To which she said nothing and in the report, was described as a manipulative action.
i wasnt allowed in my school the next day. iwas fired. i lost my DCF license and am unemployable because the report went into public records. this asshole had raped me in my sleep, taken pictures when iwas sleeping, hit me, slammed my head against the wall.. damn i could go on and on. he admitted to it all on my phone. ihave a university education from an honors college and a post grad degree in infant mental health. all useless now. because they believed his drunken shit over my sober account.
the lawyer called it a travesty. i called it the day i bought my LSATs practice books. i will not abide.
thank you for this website