Barbora

Over a year ago I transited from a 3d modeller to a programmer and since then I have gradually lost all of my male friends. I guess my last job was more “artistic” and therefore not so threatening, but ever since I started programming all my (now sadly former) friends who are male and also programmers are treating me like I don’t deserve the position I currently work on.

It is not like I don’t have qualification for that (I actually have a Master’s degree in programming) but they still treat me like I don’t know what I am doing and give me either unsolicited advice or nasty comments in which they doubt my professional abilities. One of my ex – friends actually approached my boss and offered himself as a paid consultant for a project I’m working on (I didn’t ask him to do that I merely complained to him about a colleague who undermined and mocked me). At another time when I was searching for work he refused to recommend me anywhere as a programmer, only as a 3d artist. I must add that none of the work I was ever assigned to do ended badly, it was always delivered in time and met the expectations, so I do not know where is the substance to all that mocking coming from apart from that I dare to actually be a woman.

I know that there are people who are on top of their fields and do amazing stuff that I will never fully understand and I am not one of those (neither is any of the people mocking me, even though, apparently, they all think so…) but that fact alone is not a reason for being scolded, discouraged, lectured, treated as a fraud or impostor, and I can go on here, really…

Sadly this page hasn’t a comment section I am so curious what you people think of this, because it feels like slowly going crazy. Also two of my colleagues are touching me despite my protests (this shouldn’t be happening at all, do they really need me to tell them?!). I am exhausted…