Today two male colleagues emailed me on separate topics. Both emails started by instructing me what to think on the issue they thought was important in that moment. Then the emails instructed me where and how I should share that opinion, which, they explained, I would be able to do more effectively than them (at least in part because speaking as a woman it won’t seem like I am imposing that position). In addition to being a waste of my time, these emails put me in a bad mood. Not to mention (shock, horror) I already have my own well formed opinions on both topics.