I’ve started dating someone new and we’ve been sleeping together for a few weeks. When we had sex a few days ago, he was on top of me and placed one of his hands around my throat. No pressure was applied and it was on there for a few seconds at most but it really shocked and disturbed me. We spoke about it afterwards and he was so apologetic and horrified that he’d upset me. I’m glad we were able to speak about it and I don’t think he could have responded better to me saying how the incident made me feel. The whole incident highlighted the importance of getting consent from a partner before trying any new sex act rather than just testing the water or assuming I’ll like a sex act just because his previous partner did.
