M (Male)

Content warning: Sexually aggressive themes

Ever since early high-school I hear from friends and the media that women like men who are rough and mean.
I’ve grown up on a steady diet of porn that tells me that women like to choke on d*ck and be spanked and pushed around.
I overheard a girl in my secondary school saying that she got bored of her boyfriend being nice and wishes he would call her a bitch.
All girls I’ve ever been with have been sexually submissive.
It leaves me feeling scared that if I’m too nice, I will lose the person I love. My girlfriend stops me when I half jokingly tell her she’s ‘my bitch’ and when I’m too aggressive in bed I’m grateful for that because I never want to hurt her.